<p>I really don’t know where to start. Since I have been in college I have been invited to a lot of fraternity parties. I however think of myself as a low key nerd. I like to spend my weekend catching up on sleep, study for the week ahead, or if I have time hang out with my friends. My friends have been pushing me to go to parties but I am not a major party person I like to party ever once in a while but every weekend seems excessive for me. Anyways I have umm well a pretty curvy figure and I usually attract the players/ party guys. I don’t wear make up and usually leave my hair with its natural curls. My attire for school consist of mostly sweatshirt and jeans or an occasional nice outfit. My question is how do I attract the nice guys I am tired of the players. I want to find a nice guy/ long term relationship guy any advice is much appreciated 
Oh and if some people haven’t figured out I am a girl charlie is short for Charlotte.</p>
<p>There is no guide, i’m afraid. Be yourself, join a club with similar interests that you have, perhaps go from there?</p>
<p>You are less likely to find them at frat parties. Try church or service or intellectually minded clubs and organizations that match your interests. Most importantly - hold fast to your standards; don’t compromise. It’s easy to get discouraged, but hang in there and pursue your own goals and interests with integrity. Get to know guys on a friendship basis before a romantic one. That way you can better asses their true character.</p>
<p>NeedAVacation’s got it right, you’re going to need to get out of the frat parties if you want optimal chances of a “nice guy”. Why don’t you find some sort of a studying groups/clubs of interest/not-purely-social-conventions. That’s not to say you won’t find “mean guys” at these and you may certainly find a “nice guy” at a frat party. To get the nice guy? Don’t play games, be honest, and if your interests match up things will click and off your relationship will sore.</p>
<p>Play games though and you can only lose. He’ll either turn out to be a player or you’ll see him as pathetic rather than as nice. Let things take a natural swing to how they bring themselves about, don’t push anything. But don’t be afraid to make steps, just make sure they’re in the right direction. Amen and what not</p>
<p>It might be time to check your friend zone.</p>
<p>Be a nice girl- personality matters quite a bit. And keep dressing nice- nothing too short, etc. I don’t care what anyone says, if you show off your figure a lot (super low cut shirts, skirts that leave nothing to the imagination, etc), people are likely to get the wrong impression. </p>
<p>If you’re religious, a church group is a good place to start, but if you’re not, don’t worry about it. Regular clubs and study groups are also great places to meet people:)</p>
<p>It might be time to check your friend zone.</p>
<p>^this.</p>
<p>Thanks guys for all the advice I am afraid I was not clear in my original post. I do not go to a lot of frat parties. I do not show off my figure but I had to wear a dress for one of my presentations and word got around that I have a nice body. Ever since that presentation the nice guys have stopped approaching me and I have been getting a lot of frat boys asking me out. I am in two pre-med club, student government, and an organization that helps under served areas. I have study groups for each class. A perfect example was on Friday in my history class this really sweet shy guy got my number and has been texting me for a couple of weeks well on Friday some frat guy decided that he was going to sit next to me and be very obnoxious. He was saying things like oh I know you think im hot. The more I told him to shut up the more obnoxious he became. The shy guy hasn’t returned my texts and he didn’t walk me to class. He didn’t even say bye.
I am confused why should I check the friend zone? Can someone spell it out haha sorry.
Oh and I completely agree with the idea that less is more
thanks guys :)</p>
<p>Check your friend zone. Good one.</p>
<p>Maybe you should try making making the moves. A lot of guys would appreciate that for a change.</p>
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<p>They mean you should maybe look at some of the people you’ve dismissed in the past for not catching your interest. Usually girls dismiss them because they don’t treat them like garbage.</p>