<p>okay so i consider myself a good person. I mean i’m friendly, warm, kind… overall a stand up person. I told my roomie to have as much of my food as she wanted, and overall i wasn’t really in the room that much because all of my friends live on the 5th floor (i’m on the 2nd). In addiotion like when her best friend/ sex buddy came to visit from home i gave her the room thurs nit, fir, sat, and most of sunday… </p>
<p>But my roomie just moved out, well becauses she was a horrible person who really hurt my feelings. Long story short, she last saturday she wrote a hurtful IM to my best friend roomie, asking if she would be interested in swiching, at the same time, she doesn’t know muy best friends roomie… like how did my roomie know that my best friend’s roomie didn’t like steal or throw wild parties? also my roomie didn’t come and talk to me about moving… or the problems that she was having w/ me. When i confronted her, she said it was “the little things” such as turning on the light when i wanted to change, when she was watching a movie (like she can deal i’m not going to change in the dark). She also claimed that she was using me that night as an “easy target” and that a lot of things were going wrong, and that i was the littlest thing, and an easy target for me…
Also what got me p/o at her is that In addion she keeps a bike in the room, and this morning at 6:00 am, 2 hrs before a final, the f***ing bike feel off the ledge and woke me up.
in addition, like in the beginning of school… she hooked up w/ a guy that i was hooking up w/ like my hook up buddy came for me… and ended hooking up w/ my roomie (like at the time i wasn’t into the guy anymore… but still… ewww!!!) </p>
<p>anyway so after the bike incident i wrote in livejournal (which is public to all) i said the honest truth and she moved out. </p>
<p>So I want to know… tips for being a good roomie? obvi i did something wrong and for my next roomie (most likely it will be someone random… that is if someone does end up moving in) I want to be a better person. I can’t have this happen again. I want to be close w/ my new roomie and i want things to work out between us… any ideas???</p>
<p>From your post it seems your roommate and you led separate lives more out or your need to be a “good” roommate. Be open and honest with your next roommate, set ground rules(together), and try to be more inclusive. Also invite your next roommate to do activities with you to get to know each other better, etc. That being said your last roommate was kind of shady and mean.</p>
<p>Establish ground rules - standing up for yourself can make people respect you more (yeah, well, some people - y’all can stop laughing at me).</p>
<p>Sounds like your roommate was just a bad person - who hooks up with their roommate’s guy? Really, most people understand that doing such things isn’t going to help the living situation.</p>
<p>i would probably leave a note on her bed about the roomate relationship and what you two could do to become better roomies. Or maybe engage in sexual activities, sometimes it helps people bond better</p>
<p>^^^agreed. Communication is definitely the most important thing when living with someone you don’t know. I am normally not a really talkative person, but I made an effort at the beginning of the semester to talk to my roommate and now we’re really great friends and have a blast living together.</p>
<p>so i looked online… and i got a new roomie for next semester!!</p>
<p>I don’t know her… and its weird that housing and dining hasn’t spoken to me about her moving in… but yeah… i’ll take all your suggestions to heart… and yeah… hopefully this time around things will be better</p>
<p>our suite has a thing where roommates fill out a joint contract about what to do when certain things come up (ie…one person wants to have the room to herself and a bf, how late visitors can come over, if ppl can stay over night, quiet hours, etc)</p>
<p>maybe you and your roomie can make one as soon as she moves in? pretty much the same as communication…</p>
<p>^^ those are required for freshmen at my school, and optional for upperclass students (usually they don’t do it b/c they chose who to room with…)</p>
<p>humm… at my school the roomie contract is usually filled out by people who have issues w/ their roomies… i think what i may do, is over break talk to her (via facebook, IM, phone calls, etc)… then when we come back, have a long talk about our likes/ dislikes… and about open-ness trust… etc so if something is wrong, then we can talk about it and see how we can solve the problem. </p>
<p>I don’t like my roommates and here is why:
One told me to do my dishes because they smell, and when i did mine, HERS were in the sink w/ mold on them!
The other one is always napping unless she is in class, so anytime i come into the bedroom day or night i have to be quiet.</p>
<p>I would say that the best way to be a good roommate is to remember that you and the other people in the room all have to live there, and should all have equal rights. If you give certain courtesies to your roommates, they should do likewise.</p>
good suggestion! saw that happen to a friend. </p>
<p>best advice i could give is to ask before you do stuff. like ASK if you have a friend sleep in my bed when im gone for the weekend. or ask if you can drink all of my soda cans. lol yea these were only little problems i had with my one roommate. also be courteous like don’t make a lot of noise when your roommates asleep.</p>