So, to begin this discussion, I wanted to give some background as to why I want a room change.
Over the past couple of months, she has shown to not respect my privacy. No, I don’t mean inviting people over, but forcibly putting me on FaceTime with whomever she is talking to without my consent. I feel like my privacy is completely invaded because I feel as though she does it purposely at the most inconvenient times. A couple of times I wasn’t dressed (as in: not in proper/presentable clothes) to speak to the person she was putting to my face. In the morning, I am still in my PJ with my hair all over the place. I don’t expect person I am rooming with to put me on FaceTime when I am like that or when I didn’t ask to say “Hello.”
There was one instance where I was sleeping, but very well conscious to hear everything she was doing. She began talking to her family sometime around 7AM and was about to leave the room. However, before she left, she showed the room to the person and even put me on camera while I was sleeping! I managed to peek a bit and, for sure, the camera was pointing straight at me from the door. My face is completely visible from where she is standing. I ended up telling her to not show me to people she is talking to when I am not dressed or asking for it. Even then, she had proceeded a few more times to do so.
My last straw was this morning. She purposely angled the front camera on her phone to allow the person she was talking to to see me. I knew she was talking to her family, which made this even worse for me. I was in my PJs with no bra and looking like a total slob (hair undone, eating a bag of chips, and watching Charmed). I told her not to show me as soon as she said, “this is my roommate.” She ignored me and said it again, “Yeah, that’s my roommate.” Again, I said “Don’t show me [to them].” She ignored me and started coming closer with the phone using the back camera. The camera was clearly to my face before changing angles to show my computer more. She started saying, “and this is the show she is watching,” super close… It was close enough that my torso and face was probably in full detail. I got aggravated and slapped the phone away from my side. Note: The phone was so close that I was able to smack it while still laying down… I yelled to her again two times not to show me [to them]. She went to the side and said she wasn’t, but she really was. She gave me absolutely no privacy or space. I was visibly uncomfortable and unhappy.
This is not the only times she’s done similar… This has happened multiple times and is not the only thing she has been doing that makes me so uncomfortable. I’ve talked to my parents, boyfriend, and now resorting to this community for some advice.
I want to change rooms to feel comfortable with my privacy and not be paranoid that she is possibly recording me or putting me on FaceTime when I’m not aware. She keeps doing it.
What should I tell the Resident Director?
Should I asked for an empty room and leave it open for a possible new roommate?
How should I break the news to my roommate?
How can I make it less awkward between her and me, since we are in the same sport team?
I plan to have it changed for the Spring semester since the Fall is done in 2 weeks.
*Sorry if there are typos.