How to deal with my current job?

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<p>I don’t know how you could know. And I don’t think you could ask your co-workers about it since they may not be on your side.</p>

<p>I just know my D was once given a project that was out of the realm of her job description and her capabilities. It required an IT person or a programmer. She actually worked on it with an IT person for a while and the IT person couldn’t get it done! Her bosses didn’t want to hear it. They basically told her if she couldn’t do it, she needed to look elsewhere. So she resigned before they could fire her. Guess what? That was 4 years ago and no one has completed the project yet - in fact I don’t think there is anyone working on it now, at least no one from her dept. I don’t know if they set her up to fail or not. But it stunk and she got out. And she had only been there a few months and no one else had ever tackled the project…</p>

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<p>AnonForThis, I just don’t understand. 12 appts a year? I have a very, very complicated health history and I still don’t think have as many appts. (I did have 1 surgery last year meant a few pre-and-post visits, so that added to the total.) I also combine some visits, like my mammo is scheduled at the same office and time with my ob-gyn. When my kids were younger, I always, always scheduled their appts as the last one in the day, so it didn’t take as much time out of my workday. </p>

<p>It’s may also be very distracting because that you drink so much water, you to go to the bathroom so often. I used to work with this physically disabled guy who’d disappear for hours (it seemed) and he’d say he was in the bathroom. I felt sorry for him, but also realized I was doing a lot more work in his absense.</p>

<p>It’s true they may be setting you up for failure, but you sure don’t seem like you’ve gone out of your way to make friends. Remember, you’re the new guy there and it’s up to you to fit in. Those old timers have their friendships and their routines, so they’re probably more likely to be entitled to take more time off. They’ve already paid their dues. If you’re collecting sheets of paper that tallies when they’re leaving or talking on the phone for a personal call, you’re just stooping to a pretty low level of trust.</p>

<p>—New jobs can be very stress, but even though you’ve been there for a year, you should still try to get along and drop the nit-picking. Just trying to add an alternate point of view.</p>

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<p>I usually schedule dental and medical appointments this way to avoid work conflict:</p>

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<li>Before 8:30 AM</li>
<li>Between 11:00 and 1:00 PM</li>
<li>After 4:00 PM</li>
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<p>I always email my boss and my coworkers when I will be late or leave early.
My boss is very flexible and my work environment is very friendly.</p>

<p>In the OP’s situation, I think there is too much friction already and it’s time to find a new job or find a lawyer if the OP is unfairly treated.

This is not a good sign. Why on earth this coworker said this?</p>

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<p>coolwather, i have the same question. If they want to get rid of me, why they go out of their way so I can over hear all about it?</p>

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<p>MomLive, completely agree with you. I’m a professional with a high work ethics. Why an employer needs to micromanage to the hour?
Yes, it’s a toxic environment, and i’m planning to leave as soon as I find something else. Thanks so much for your comments, MomLive.</p>

<p>HiMom, thanks. I don’t know what’s going on. My boss gave me high mark on my last employee evaluation. So I guess competence doesn’t not really matter for them. My doc appts. I was able to schedule two of them on weekends. I can’t with the other docs. </p>

<p>limabeans, i know what you’re talking about your disabled co-worker, but my breaks do not take more than 5 minutes each time. I’m not disabled. I’m friendly to everybody. And I’ll try to do small talk with everybody. However, I’m not trying to form deep friendships.</p>

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<p>Because some people are catty. :)</p>

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<p>by the way, what would be the best strategy to deal with this job??
I know I need some time to find something else. And I don’t want my life to be a living hell : (</p>

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<p>Mostly just bookmarking this thread.</p>

<p>I know at this stage in the game, I would have trouble being objective and helpful.</p>

<p>But I will share some history.</p>

<p>At age 17, I graduated high school, and with some pressure from my family, took an Air Force ROTC scholarship to pay for college. By the time I was applying for medical school, and they were offering more commitment for more money, I had a sense of what I had done. Over the next 8 years, I lived in fear of having my training cut short, and later, losing custody of my kids, in order to honor my commitment. </p>

<p>In this next phase of my career, there were three woman whose lives and career I will follow for the next fifteen years. One of us would never have kids ( NOT what she wanted, but a reflection of her choices), I had two, and the third has two kids, and either she or her kids are out with illnesses a lot. I am estimating about a year of time off in the 10 years we “worked together”. We are all physicians. </p>

<p>I am trying my best not to be judgmental, so i will say that two of us covered a lot for the third who was less fortunate. Call me a fool, but it meant dictating notes from a hospital bed, while being induced, because my baby was failing to thrive. I did not feel like I could miss work.</p>

<p>Yes, I was a fool.</p>

<p>Fast forward a few years, and I was in charge of hiring and firing, but as the “last man”, had to work, and cover when at least four other physicians could not. I thought that was a “living hell”. At some point I thought that my, and my children’s good health, and the fact that my husband had benefits, put me in the position of having a career as an independent contractor. </p>

<p>For awhile, the going was VERY good,and even now, I feel VERY fortunate, but as a small business owner, I am constantly aware of the dollars and sense involved with every minute or hour I have the choice/ability to do something that does not earn income. I have taken an “independent contractor” job with the government, and am reminded of this very day, but still feel grateful to be able to stick with this, and not work for someone else. </p>

<p>I often felt I was “floating” those less fortunate than I.</p>

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<p>shrinkrap, i hear you. I think most of us women with kids have been fools too. We’re always try to work hard and go above and beyond. I’ve been there. Now I have different priorities: my kids and family.</p>

<p>So I’m thinking about my situation. I have the option to get whatever job that meets my flex time needs. Or I could take some time and find a better job that offers flex time and better compensation. If I take whatever job soon, then I avoid being lay off. If I take my time finding something with flex time and better salary, then I’m risking being lay off. Is it a better strategy to avoid being lay off and get a new job as soon as possible? any words of wisdom.</p>