<p>I’m a freshman. First semester I made a couple pretty close friends; however, by the last month or so before break, I started to get pretty tired of them. They’re having relationship drama with each other and they’re often melodramatic and somewhat selfish. We can have a lot of fun together, but I’m starting to realize that I don’t want them to make up so much of my social life.</p>
<p>I have other friends, but these are the main people I hang out with. Obviously I’m going to continue to try to make new friends and get closer to the other ones I have. But my problem is that I know these two friends will want to hang out a lot when we get back, and while I don’t want to lose them or make things weird with them, I really don’t want to spend so much time with them. I’m also worried that telling them things like “I can’t hang out as much because I need to spend more time on school” will backfire if they see me making plans with other people still.</p>
<p>Just schedule some things that don’t include them and “I have to study” is a great excuse. Don’t worry about making things weird for them - shows maturity on your part to distance yourself now and focus on school both academically and socially (as in drama free friends). Good luck.</p>
<p>you could like their pictures on instagram every time they post
this will give the illusion that you’re still socially connected but you’re not available to hangout</p>
<p>Not saying this is your situation, I always heard from my girls about how sick and tired they were of their closest friends, but as soon as they were back on campus they were so happy to see their friends again. It is a lot of closeness when you live, eat, party with same people all the time. Now my older kid is out of college, she flies all over the country to see those fiends she was so tired of. </p>
<p>If you really feel they are taking up too much of your time, you should feel free to make plans with other people or do other activities without them. If they are really good friends, they’ll let you do what you want to do. Just make sure you remember their birthdays and go to their special events, like recitals.</p>
<p>Ya its pretty hard to leave your main circle of friends. I did that once but ended up going back because my new friends were worse.</p>
<p>The relationship drama is probably temporary but you can distance yourself by declining to hang out and say your busy. Still talk to them but don’t hang out with them as often.</p>
<p>Or confront them about the problem maybe they’ll tone it down.</p>