<p>Hi. While I am not austistic, I have always been very socially awkward feel uncomfortable in large groups. I’ve always been able to make a few close friends though. </p>
<p>Are there any clubs or groups at Cornell that are populated by dorky/awkward students like myself?</p>
<p>I’m starting in the fall too. (: Why not try making friends with just your roommate first? One person isn’t as intimidating as a large group. If they’re social, they can introduce you to some more people, and if they’re not, you’ve got a friend anyway!</p>
<p>Well I used to be a socially awkward person, but over the years I’ve gotten sick of it and slowly grew out of it.
The trick is, stop giving a f<strong>k what other people think about you.
Some people think you’re a nerd because you program? F</strong>k them. Some people think your opinion is weird? F<strong>k them. Some people think you’re socially awkward? F</strong>k them. Some people think you look funny in a party? F**k them!</p>
<p>Once I started doing that, I realize people who don’t like me continue to not like me, but I gain a lot more friends because I’m not afraid of taking risks. I would say I make friends really easily now because I usually initiate conversations with random people, while not giving a f<strong>k what they think of me.
It’s college! It’s you’re best 4 years of YOUR life! Make it better! Don’t ruin it by worrying how others will judge you!
Sorry for all the cussing, but you gotta get in that mood!!! (Think I swear too much? F</strong>k you!)</p>
<p>Check out this article, it’s really life changing.
[The</a> Complete Guide to Not Giving a ****](<a href=“http://inoveryourhead.net/the-complete-guide-to-not-giving-a-****/]The”>http://inoveryourhead.net/the-complete-guide-to-not-giving-a-****/)</p>
<p>A quote from the article…
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<p>^ just so there’s no misunderstanding, be nice to your friends. You’re friends/family are the ones who matter, so treat them with loyalty and respect. What I mentioned above is how you treat people who judge you.</p>
<p>biggspc I would suggest that instead of looking for clubs with other socially awkward people, join clubs for activities that interest you, whatever they are, and you’ll start meeting people you share interests with and have some good friends. You may also find new friends on your floor and in your classes. All 3 approaches worked for me when I was a socially awkward freshman many years ago… good luck!</p>
<p>^Exactly…You want to join clubs and participate in only those things that will trully interest you. If you join clubs just because of the people you perceive to be the same as you than you are setting yourself up for more of the same. What are some of the things you enjoy doing? Do you like community service? Do you enjoy the outdoors (the outdoor adventure club is great)? Think about the things you like or would like to try and push yourself to get involved. Also, do you work out? I think physical exercise is a great way to get yourself both physically and mentally pumped…when you look good you feel good…use your Cornell gym membership. You could talk to other students while working out…people are very helpful about assisting a newbie to methods they use in the gym. It is a good time to just try new things. The great thing about Cornell is that there are so many students and so much to do you can’t possibly not find something that you enjoy.</p>