<p>Ok, so basically there is this girl named Lydia, with whom I’ve been friends with for about an year now. We met during our statistics class last year and, as we are in the same college major (economics). So, from there on, we started hanging out and studying for tests together. This summer, in particular, I actually got to know her better and we started spending more time together. During this time, I felt that I got close emotionally with her. Later, in September when school started, we still had common economics classes together, and thus spent a lot of time together. This was when she started giving off signs causing me to suspect that she might like me. For example, she would occasionally touch me, act all cute and flirty with me, and wanted to spend more time together, and also get slightly mad if I hung out with other girls… She was a great friend and I never expected to develop feelings for her. But this was exactly what happened, in early September. So, I told one of our mutual friends about this, and Lydia eventually found out through her friends that I liked her. Things got even more awkward when I drunk texted her, expressing my feelings, after partying with friends. And boy, was she mad! She avoided me for like a week until we both sat down and had a heart to heart conversation about all this. Lydia made it a point stating that that at this given moment, she was not looking for a relationship, and just wanted to focus on her studies. She told me that I was a great guy, but she just didn’t look at me in that angle. She also said that we could be closer friends, but a relationship would not be possible. So, I thought, it was all cool between us now, and I stated calling/texting her for casually hanging out or doing homework together. However, she never seems to reply. In fact, it seems that she is avoiding me. I am starting to fear this could be the end of our friendship altogether. I try to tell myself to forget her and let her go but it is not working. I really do not want to lose her, and I really do not know what to do. Sorry for making this so long. Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!</p>
<p>time. i know it’s really annoying and really hard and really really repetitive, but time. just give her time and space. just don’t completely ignore her either. if anything invite other friends to study with you guys and avoid giving her any extra attention without being hostile to her either until she feels confident to be around you again. or just tell her and apologize. so many ways, it all depends on the kind of girl she is. one thing though, DO NOT LET THIS GET IN THE WAY OF SCHOOL. ultimately that’s what you are there for.</p>