<p>My relationship with my mom has reached its breaking pt and I think its time for me to leave. Since this isn’t a psychologist’s office I don’t care to elaborate, but I really don’t know where or how to start. I can’t find a job around here (northern suburb of chicago) part-time so I doubt full-time will be possible without even a college degree. I am 19 years old and finished freshman year out-of-state, so I guess I will be dropping out of college to find work full-time and maybe attend community college. I need to find a place to live, yet I can’t get or hold a job to pay for it. Please help, where do I start?</p>
<p>Hugs – first of all, make certain you leave college one on good terms, paid up etc. Second, have you considered a live in nanny job, for school age kids, wont pay much more than romm and board, but you could go to CC.</p>
<p>If you can’t find a job in your home area, perhaps you can find one in your out-of-state college area. At least it won’t be a completely unfamiliar town/city.</p>
<p>Unless you are able to live with family members, you won’t be able to commit to an apartment without a job. Do you have siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. who might be able to put you up for a few months?</p>
<p>I do have relatives but it would be very awkward as they live close to my parents and I would feel like I am going from mooching off one set of relatives to another. Right now I’m trying to find a residential camp counselor job, and I will look for a nanny job but I would probably need more experience to get something like that. The counselor job would only be for summer but still, and more than anything I just need to get away.</p>
<p>Camp cousnelor + babysitting is ususally enough for nanny job. Even babysitting should be enough. Do you drive? Have clean record? Swim? look at cragislist jobs in your area, or pst your own. These jobs usually are for immediate hire.</p>
<p>If you have friends in the community where you went to college out of state, especially friends who live off-campus, you might be able to stay with them for a short period of time while job-hunting in that area. And if you can find a job there – in retail or a restaurant or something like that – you might be able to share an apartment with students. There’s usually a lot of shared housing in college communities. The live-in nanny idea might work in that community as well, and it’s a community that is already familiar to you.</p>
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<p>I agree now is a particularly difficult job market. I recently saw an ad for temporary census workers for Racine, WI (just north of you). For most high school grad jobs, you may have to adjust your lifestyle expectations, and start at minimum wage. You will be competing against a lot of high school and college kids, but one advantage you have is that you will not be looking for just summer work.</p>
<p>One thing you can do to make yourself more attractive as a babysitter and nanny is get certified in first aid and CPR.</p>
<p>No income = no independence. Sorry, hugs would not pay the bills. Find full-time jobs, while still in school. I have worked full time, had my family and went to school until my 40’s. Another option is to get married to a person who is willing to support you, but even in this case, it is important to work. By the way, a lot of places pay for education, my education cost us almost nothing, maybe some used books we still had to pay for. </p>
<p>Since full time job is almost impossible to find now for 19 years old without experience (my D could not find anything even last year when it was better. for that matter, she had hard time getting volunteer position), I believe that you kind of stuck where you are now.
That is if you want realistic assessment of situation.</p>
<p>Oh, babysitter even full time will not be enough financially - my friend does it, at least, she is not new to that, so she has kids all the time because of referrals. I would not leave a baby with inexperienced 19 years old for whole day. This is again the truth of the matter.</p>
<p>One option not yet mentioned is to enlist in the military. Pay, benefits, skills/experience, leadership, college funding, etc.</p>
<p>yes, I know its not to realistic MiamiDad, especially with no car of my own to top it off. Going home was obviously a mistake on my part that I don’t intend on repeating though; I know I would be happier working my entire summer off and living in a tiny cabin than trapped at home dealing with all this verbal abuse. I am going to get CPR certification and look for a out-of-state job for next summer all of this summer and the school year. I’m hoping with a 10 month advance I will find something by next summer, right? And then from there I won’t be at home much.</p>
<p>I actually looked up the army suggestion but it turns out I’m disqualified. Ah well, at this point I wouldn’t make a very good army person anyways, my coordination is awful and I need to develop at least some arm strength by weightlifting or whatnot.</p>
<p>I think perhaps you should talk to a recruiter- if you are fit to attend college- I think the army would take you- there aren’t many they disqualify before application.
It might be very empowering.</p>
<p>I think perhaps you should talk to a recruiter- if you are fit to attend college- I think the army would take you- there aren’t many they disqualify before application.
It might be very empowering.</p>
<p>You say you feel it is time for you to leave; does you mom/do your parents also feel that way?</p>
<p>Returning home from the first year away is a BIG adjustment for all parties. Parents seem to want to return to the role of a high schooler’s parent, they haven’t witnessed on a day to day basis, the progress of your maturing this past year.
You, on the other hand, feel quite self sufficient, and probably bristle at the parent(s) attempts at ‘control’.</p>
<p>You do not indicate if your parents are suggesting you drop out of school in order to move out on your own. If they aren’t, you will survive by finding something to do to get out of the house this summer. Volunteer, babysit, start a garden, go to the library, job hunt at any WiFi location, get ahead on next semester by reading about your anticipated coursework.</p>
<p>Once you get through this summer, get back to school and start preparing for next summer: research internship/coop opportunities, find out about summer jobs on campus.</p>
<p>Best of luck!</p>
<p>Miami – I was suggesting a live in job as a nanny for school age children. Plenty ofpeople where I live leave non-babys with 19 YO. Some foreign – aupairs – some US. I agree, unless live in, wont work. But live in with school age kids, you should be able to take a decent schedule.</p>
<p>kayf,
You will not find job like this not only in my medium size city but most likely in my whole state and few surrounding states, some of which have unemployment rate of 14% with some cities estimated unemployment rate of 25% and all retirees with all kind of experiences are being way ahead of 19 years old unexperience person. Sorry, not a chance here.</p>
<p>I think you can find these jobs in upper-middle or upper class suburbs. There are still two parent working households. Most older people dont want live in jobs. Craigslist has posting, also the the Irish Echo</p>
<p>Sorry, not a chance here.</p>
<p>well unless you actually * are * interested, don’t google - miami + live in + + nanny
:rolleyes:</p>
<p>emeraldkity4,
I do not live in Miami or anywhere close to Florida.</p>