Hi, i’m having a bit of an embarrassing issue. A few of you may remember me- I posted about a year ago about my family’s money issues with college and I ultimately ended up having to attend a CC.
My problem is that i’m extremely jealous of my friends who are at university. Mainly my best friend. She actually ended up attending my dream college in a far away state. Today is her orientation/move in date and I feel so jealous. She’s sending me pictures and everything and i’m genuinely happy for her but I just can’t help but feel so jealous and upset, because I really miss her and she’s been my best friend since elementary school, but now she lives 3,000 miles away.
It’s not that i’m not happy with where I am in life, because I am. I have a 4.0 and i’m in my second semester of CC. I’m transferring to an OOS university in a few months that I really love. I have a super exciting internship lined up for the summer. I guess it’s just that I feel like all my friends are doing so much more than me, and I don’t really have many new friends at CC.I ended up having to take almost all online courses because of the way my schedule is and the way my CC is spread out over an entire tri-city area. The one in person class I take is very small and a lot of the students are older, and most aren’t interested in talking/making friends.
The thing that’s so dumb about it is that I realized a while ago the college that I wouldn’t even really be happy at the college she’s attending. The only thing that I really liked about it was the location, everything else was the complete opposite of what I wanted. But now that she’s there all I want is to be there too.
I guess i’m just having trouble with this. Does anyone have any advice?
Only you can fix this. There aren’t really “tricks” to help you. Recognizing that you are jealous is a good first step. Stay busy and focus on your own activities and goals.
Keep in mind that EVERYTHING looks better on social media. Also there is someone out there who is probably jealous of you -because you have a 4.0 and a cool internship.
Try to think about what you do have, and not what you don’t have.
You happen to have a family that has financial limitations. Nothing you can do about that.
But you have mad e the most of what you do have. You are able to go to college and you are making the most of that by getting As. You have insight to know what you thought you wanted is not really what will work with you. You have already lined up an internship.
In 4 years, you will be graduating from OOS school…nobody will care that you went to CC. They will just see your awesome GPA and your internship experience.
If there was only way to do it, we’d all be doing it that way. CC is a stepping stone for many, many people who wind up with 4-year degrees, many like you who aren’t struggling academically but for financial reasons. You will be stepping into your OOS school with a perfect GPA (what), and that’s where you will receive your diploma, period. That you have a great internship already lined up is huge. Once you get going with that and your new school beyond, thoughts of feeling left behind academically or otherwise by your HS friends will melt away. And agree with @veruca : social media is the curated version of someone’s life. There isn’t going to be a lot on there about someone struggling with their first year away from home, grades tanking, feeling like they have no friends. They are doing more (and sharing it) because they are THERE. That will be you next year, so don’t beat yourself up.
