Someone mentioned tuition insurance…we got that for my DD with anxiety just in case.
Not all tuition insurance plans cover withdrawal for mental health. Or they may interpret it as 'difficulty adjusting." Read the plan carefully.
http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/news/2014/08/should-you-buy-college-tuition-insurance/index.htm
@Pizzagirl If people have followed this thread, they will see I have mentioned about how D refused to tell her doctor about her last anxiety attack, that means she has been seeing a specialist. Also H has a few doctors lined up for D to visit when in MN even months ago. We know the chance for her to have the problem in MN is a lot smaller than she would have it at home based on our experience. It’s the last month or three weeks that worried me a lot. Things are under control now. She is excited about leaving and is talking to her teammates and a bunch of incoming freshmen. I think my worries were gone.
Thank you everyone for the advice and support.
I say this only to be helpful because we went through the transition last year. There are so many things that you cannot predict. If I had a child with a known medical condition, I would do my best to set up as many supports as I could and know what was available to her in the event that later on she called you in a panic.
Beyond that, I would let her find her people and build her own supports. My daughter has counseled friends and acquaintances to be as open and friendly as possible at the beginning of freshman year because that is the window during which people are trying hardest to connect with each other. They haven’t yet formed groups or joined clubs that close them off to new relationships. She feels that if you miss that window you have a much harder time later on. I know you say you don’t plan to be right there on campus but I really urge you to say goodbye (wherever you are going afterwards) and leave your daughter with the impression that you are gone for awhile.
I’m gonna go out on a limb here and guess that the D has not been seeing a therapist.
And I really don’t understand how you can be confident that the likelihood of her having issues in MN, in an entirely new experience, is less than in the familiar environment of home.
And the diagnosis of the anxiety disorder was by the mom.
@surfcity . Did you read my post #142? I am confident because she is my daughter and I know what her fear is. Should I worry something that hasn’t happened yet and stop her from going out of state? Sorry I am not following.
It’s been very confusing, OP. Sometimes, when it is, readers turn to the parent who’s doing this describing.
Eg, you feel it was clear that, since your “D refused to tell her doctor about her last anxiety attack, that means she has been seeing a specialist.” But just saying "her doctor"doesn’t confirm to any of us it’s a therapist. Matter of fact, nether does “specialist.”
I would be very concerned if she isn’t willing to tell her doctor about the attacks–how can she get the treatment she needs if she doesn’t work with her doctor or get the best medical advice on the transition if she’s deceiving her doctor about her symptoms? Also concerned about her not filing the paperwork for you to get her medical info.
For her medical privacy, I could only say so much. I was not looking for professional advice. I was just asking if anyone who is a victim themselves or a family of one who could share some experience. I appreciated who actually has the experience to give me advice because they know. I also PM’ed who really wanted to know and mattered about her personal matter.
@mathyone Yes she once refused to do so and it was one of my main concern. But she has been accepting this and being very open minded to talk about it with her doctor.
This problem is solved for now. Again I do appreciate who contributed their thoughts.
You aren’t compromising her privacy by saying that she is seeing a therapist. Because you have been asked this numerous times, and you’ve just said “doctor” or “specialist.” I understand completely why people are concluding that she hasn’t been or isn’t currently seeing a therapist. Because the first course of action would have been to run your plan by the therapist and get his / her professional input, and that clearly hasn’t occurred.
OP- anxiety isn’t a problem that you solve.
You’ve asked for our experiences- and most of us would tell you that it’s an ongoing slog for both the sufferer and the family. When it’s well controlled it’s just one more challenge in life. When it’s poorly controlled it can be hugely problematic.
Just saying- I noticed your use of words like “solved” and “problem” and “perfect”. Which your D’s therapist might suggest are words you might consider retiring for now.
A lot of people have mentioned insurance. Has anybody found a company that sells insurance for a school that does not offer it? I have looked in the past and was not able to find one.
I believe I posted earlier but will add some suggestions/thoughts:
As a family, define and agree what actions need to taken to deal with the anxiety. Sounds simple but this has been a constant battle for my family. You mention that you have several doctors that you want to check out. Do you have appointments line up? Have you checked to see if they are accepting patients? Have you made appointments? Some doctors/therapist have wait lists. Have you called the school to see if there is a wait list to see a school therapist?
Will your daughter make a appointment if needed. MIne says she is willing but doesn’t seem willing to follow through. Part of it is her anxiety and the belief that she is going okay?
You say your child is fine? Is her anxiety really under control or is it more the case that there is nothing triggering it now. My daughter anxiety is mainly around academic performance. She is doing great now since it is summer. In a month all bets are off.
"If people have followed this thread, they will see I have mentioned about how D refused to tell her doctor about her last anxiety attack, that means she has been seeing a specialist. Also H has a few doctors lined up for D to visit when in MN even months ago. "
No. **Not doctors (though a psychiatrist may be necessary for med administration). Therapists. **
Why are you so resistant to the idea that your D may need weekly or similar visits to a therapist skilled in dealing with anxiety when she is in MN?
Closed per request of the OP