How to invite part of a family to Son's open house

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<p>I don’t find it appalling at all, it is understandable to want to make someone who made your child feel so bad for a long time, its understandable to want to make him feel miserable…</p>

<p>i had that same attitude, I just decided if my child was at the point where they could cope and handle it, so was I…</p>

<p>When my child was bullied I didn’t do anything to make that little twit comforatble, if we were all at a sporting event together, I spoke to all the mom’s, and congratulated all the players, except for her…sorry, i just couldn’t do it.</p>

<p>What got me through it, cause i really was angry at this female, was knowing that my kid had grown and changed and evolved, while she was stuck…knowing my kid won many awards, and she didn’t.</p>

<p>So, as i said, its okay to be angry and want to show this young man you dislike him immensly for hurting your child, but seems at this point, your child is now a young man who battled through it and came out okay…hold onto that thought when you see this EK, and know that this will very likely be the last time in such close quarters</p>

<p>You are already uncomfortable having to be in a room with this creep, but if your son can deal, you can too.</p>

<p>But you don’t have to go out of your way to ask the EK about college, about his plans, or compliment him, or his parents.</p>

<p>You can draw a line in the sand and not cross it. He deserves at most from you, polite disdain</p>

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<p>“My question: what can we do, probably without any words and certainly without any covert actions, to maximize EK’s discomfort during that time period?..Okay, CCers: do your best!”</p>

<p>ROTF!!! First post of this nature on CC that I’ve ever seen.</p>

<p>First of all, EK’s girlfriend is probably well aware of the cheating but wants to get through prom with someone who has been a boyfriend rather than a random date. Seems like you are tempted to reference this when you see EK…“oh, look you are here with (girlfriend), I thought you were dating (other woman)”… but DON’T DO IT!! </p>

<p>Try to get through prom, graduation, etc. by taking the high road. You don’t need to go out of your way to be nice to EK, but you don’t have to make an effort to maximize his discomfort. Though I can’t blame you for thinking about it… sure is tempting!</p>

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<p>All you need to do is that which is perfectly acceptable by etiquette standards - be proper and cold. Respond to the parents or to the boy when spoken to. Otherwise, ignore them. Do that and Miss Manners will be proud!</p>

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<p>Invite the whole family and detail a friend to stick with the unpleasant son throughout his attendance. If he says or does anything in those circumstances, ask him and his parents to leave. Explain why.</p>

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<p>Sometimes I wonder who are the adults and who are the kids? You certainly can’t tell from some of these posts!</p>