<p>One of my roomies is like, “hey wanna do x”? I’m like “no, drugs are bad mmkay”. But deep down, I do want to hallucinate. And also what if he’s saying it off the cuff (i can’t tell) and will be annoyed if I tag along.</p>
<p>Also, just now, a roomie B asked
“hey dude, meet a lot of people?”
i say no
“why not? Wanna join up with me buddies?”
I say sure (sure’s never affirmative)
He says there’s going to be drinking
I say ok
He says sure?
I say “mmmm”, kinda of a maybe/no answer
yet he persists says “come on”</p>
<p>yeah, I wonder, you know when people say “we should hang out”, when do you take it seriously? When do you, as they were being casual, reject, and say “naw i’m fine”?</p>
<p>Back to “just now”, so after 1 beer and my 5’2.75" 115lb asianess is RED, roomie says “you fine”? I’m like yes. Then after 10 minutes, he says “let’s go back to dorm”. So I go alone back to dorm, bottom floor, see cops, run back. He immediately tries to rush me back and voila, I’m in dorm.</p>
<p>So I wonder, why did he invite my quiet reclusiveness only to shoo me off when I turned red? Yes concern that I might die lol…</p>
<h1>So yeah, answer to title? And comments on this situation? lol</h1>
<p>and why I say i’m up for drinking but not for x i dunno lol</p>
<p>k so you expressed opinion on that particular situation, now how do you know if someone is genuine if they say “let’s hang out soon” or something like that</p>
<p>If they mention something specific they’re probably serious. If they don’t and you want to hang out with the person, bring up something specific. If you DON’T want to hang out with them just say “Yeah, we should.”</p>
<p>edit: He probably took you back because he thought you were getting sick. Don’t read too much into it. And don’t run from cops.</p>
<p>They wouldn’t say let’s hang out “soon” if they weren’t genuine. It’s when they invite you to a specific event (esp. if they know you KNOW they are going to it)…that’s when you know they are probably just trying to be polite or they feel bad that you are alone (not necessarily, but if you don’t really know them).</p>
<p>“Are you really analyzing a party invite?”
yes
I have a jaded view of the world
So I wonder if people invite just so they can be polite and say “i’ve invited you but you never came” or they’re real interested.</p>
<p>“Well at least for me, I love corrupting innocent little youths.”
ahheeehee</p>
<p>yeah, I wonder why he shooed me off. And wonder if he was sincere in inviting me.</p>
<p>So I was RED. mmkay, that’s not good, but I wasn’t slurring or not able to walk. Everyone said “he’s fine”, he’s like “no you’re not, let’s go home”. “bye guys, i’m leaving early tonight (he says)”. Then he walks me to elevator and says “hey you can make it on your own right I wanna stay”. Then 10m I came back cause of cops in lobby (my room’s on lobby floor). He starts pushing me (as in hands on me assertively moving, not fight push) out the door.</p>
<p>What good is it if I go home, lie in bed, possibly throw up, be red whlie facing cops when I could’ve been chilling for a while, waiting for redness to subside?</p>
<p>!
I must know when to accept invites or say “lol” (for instance, I wasn’t sure about the ecstasy roomie, but when roomie b started convo about me not meeting lots of people then invited me, i say, ok dokie)</p>
<p>I am in process of counseling for anxiety btw lol</p>
<p>when someone invites you, you have 2 choices: yes or no</p>
<p>whether you accept or not is completely your choice. honestly, this thread is pretty ridiculous. maybe he was just trying to help you meet some people. who knows his motives and who really cares?</p>
<p>"I must know when to accept invites or say “lol” "
this comment is insane. whether or not you accept an invite is up to you. if you dont fit in with the group than you will stop hanging out with them. its not a big deal.</p>
<p>mmkay
So we did this Thursday, haven’t seen him Friday, on Saturday, I’m out all day, back at 8pm, he said hey wanna drink? I say sure. He says “no you don’t”. Then I say “yeah”? </p>
<p>yep, then I shower, come out, say I’m too exhausted to go with him. Then moments later, he says I’m going to a rave. I am totally not a rave guy. Why he say rave after I rejected? Why he says “no you don’t” after I say sure as opposed to say at least “you sure”?</p>
<p>So on Sunday, I was playing Smash Bros on the living room, he sits and chills, me being the nongreety unchatty guy keep playing along. Then I ask him “you doing something?” (so I can invite him to play or decide to just let him chill) (as in going out) he says yes. Here’s his chance to recruit, as he did thurs/sat, but nope. Yes I realize he has no obligation to always invite me but just putting this in as its relevant I think.</p>