<p>Maybe I’m not being aggressive enough, but I’m really bad at making new friends. Before college I’ve known my friends since we were kids. However, a year is almost over in college and I can say that I’ve yet to make one close friend. Everyone seems to have their circle of friends except me. What am I doing wrong?</p>
<p>If only someone can teach me/tell me why… :(</p>
<p>I left you a message…Check your PM inbox. :)</p>
<p>Talk to people in class… get a facebook… join some activites/intermural sports… I’m sure you’ll meet a few people you like.</p>
<p>you need a trademark, like a funny party item or habbit that no one else has or does, especially if you go to a big school. Im known as “the kid with the Super Mug who bongs 40s” Just something to make you standout a lil, nothing fancy. Also join clubs that take trips (I made a bunch of friends during a ski trip with the ski/snowboard club) hope this helps.</p>
<p>Yeah. I agree with captaincalboy to some extent. My brother is known as the irish kid…hes only 25 percent irish. He is more Costa Rican, but Costa Ricans aren’t known for their drinking habits haha. Just don’t push an image forward that isn’t true. Go join some clubs! Is your hygeine poor? Hmm. Wish I could help.</p>
<p>Get a 4.5 then see what happens :)</p>
<p>I’m having the same trouble firax! I do have a few close friends, but the friends I have made I don’t like so much. I don’t really party now, but I’d like to get more in that scene to meet new people…but I dunno how to get “in that scene”…</p>
<p>After a year in college, I just have to say that don’t think you are desperate for friends… just go out there and make some.</p>
<p>Learn to listen. Ask people about themselves, most people like to talk about themselves and their experiences. Remember the two ears and one mouth thing.</p>
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Golden words. Why do you think the dog is considered to be the best friend of a man? Because once you meet a friendly dog, he is mostly interested in you. But of course, it is always dangerous to overdo it. Don’t turn a friendly conversation into an interrogation…</p>
<p>im getting the sense that you care what people think about you</p>
<p>just dont.</p>
<p>in the long run, its better to stay the way you are, friends will come easily if you dont act fake. etc.peace</p>
<p>but if you are also superquiet or superweird then its better to change who you are</p>
<p>I partly disagree with futurewhartonman. If you’re weird, go with it. You’ll find weird friends, and it’ll all be good. If you’re very quiet, though, you may want to try to meet more people. When you go back to school, try to join clubs that interest you. Pretty much all of my friends are in the JCC (Japanese Culture Club), and a lot of them are in concert choir with me.</p>
<p>Next semester, there will be plenty of new students and they will be happy to meet people. Try introducing yourself to people you see…in the dining hall, in your classes, in your dorm. It seems hard at first, but most people won’t look at you like you’re crazy, they’ll just assume you’re being friendly.</p>
<p>Also, try to make your own fun and take others along. Invite people over to your room to play video games or watch movies or play poker or go out to play pool or something. Whatever you’re into, just try to organize a little get together with people that you’ve met. Organizing a get together yourself is like asking someone out instead of waiting for them to ask you. It requires more initiative, but you don’t have to wait around for something that’ll never happen. It takes a bit of time to move from acquaintances to friends, but you should have fun during that time.</p>
<p>I agree with KarmaFairy. Join stuff you’re interested in! Almost all my friends are people I’ve met through swing dancing. I also have to say, take chances and put yourself out there. Be confident and people will approach you.</p>
<p>Agree with KarmaFairy. Doing small get-togethers helps. Like just this year, I invited some “new” friends (more like “you just see them at school” people), and I invited them to my place for some video games. Now we are like an awesome group of friends.</p>
<p>Then again, be yourself. I was a big video game person, but I still made many friends (female ones too! : ) ).</p>
<p>my friend lived off campus as a freshman so he had trouble meeting people.
then he started throwing parties in his studio with people he met in class and people down the hall, and he met tons of cool people fast. </p>
<p>and/or</p>
<p>join tons of clubs like the others said or sports, or study groups even if you don’t need the help studying. go interact with people in common interests. go to all the school events that you can (as long as they dont interfere with your studies.) the more your out of your room the better.</p>
<p>um, how would you start a conversation?
i’m a mostly quiet, shy person, so this isn’t my area of expertise:)</p>
<p>Opie is right on the money–people lovedto talk about themselves. they also love to be told things about them. I have a little psycho. test that reveals certain personal traits. People will crowd around you to take it.</p>
<p>hathor4, just ask people questions and try to listen. People love to talk about themselves :)</p>