How to meet new friends while in a long-distance relationship.

<p>I'm a freshman at UCF which is an hour away from my hometown. I want to have fun and make friends, but my dilemma is that my gf isn't going to college and still lives in my hometown. So, I've been coming home every weekend to see her (plus my family), and for my job, Vector Marketing (I do in home demonstrations for people. I started out with people that I personally knew from my hometown and then moved on to recommendations). Here's my problem, I feel lonely and want to meet new people and make good friends here but it's not happening. I've been very talkative and I'm on a friendly level with a TON of people, but no real friends. I think I don't want to come home every weekend in order to get a better college experience, but I kinda have to for my gf and my job. Is there a way to work out my relationship so that I don't have to leave UCF every weekend? I'm so lonely and want new friends ): I signed up for A LOT of clubs during the first week but haven't received very many emails back from them (idk is space filled up).
I live in Towers which means I have my own room and share an apartment-style dorm with 3 others. My roommates and I all get along, but that's it. They're very antisocial and we won't become good friends and I don't want us to either (we're not very compatible) although we're still friendly and respectful of each other. They're great to live with, just not to hang out with.
I need some serious advice with my life. I have no idea what to do.</p>

<p>Joe-- it's the classic home town honey issue. You and millions of others have faced the issue. My rec-- stay at UCF until Thanksgiving break, study, friend up, and DATE. You are going to grow beyond the kid at home as you should. You will find a nice young lady at UCF and all will be well.</p>


<p>I second what the above poster said. However, that does NOT mean you need to break up with your girlfriend. I understand your reasons for returning home each weekend, but it's really not the best thing to do...especially as a freshmen in college. From what I've been through (I'm also a freshmen at UCF) the weekend is when you REALLY get to know more individuals, become closer with people. You can easily make friends, as you said, but there is one very important aspect to continue that friendship-hanging out with them, in a social group. However, that's not really a big option during the week, so it usually gets pushed aside to the weekend, and as you said, you're not here, which proves to be the problem right there. If people know that you leave every weekend, they're not going to bother asking you to hangout. It's not a good thing, but it seems to be how it is. So I suggest looking around campus for new jobs, and talking with your girlfriend/family and telling them what you think. Even if you didn't have a girlfriend and job back home, I'd still highly suggest NOT going home every weekend, because you miss out on a vital part of the college experiance, and are never really able to feel actually independent, or as though you really are in college. In the end, you need to do what makes YOU happy, not everyone else. It's okay to be selfless, but at some point in time, you need to really consider your own self interest. Best of luck!</p>

<p>Try and stay this weekend-UCF vs. FIU Game!:)</p>

<p>From what I've experienced, you just have to put yourself out there and do the first step of asking to perhaps have lunch or hangout together with people beyond the small talk. Most people are too shy to just ask so they're stuck with just acquaintances. Don't seem desperate though. Drop the job (find one in Orlando), stop going home, as for your gf, talk to her about your situation and that you plan on going home maybe once a month from now on. If it's gonna work out, it will, if not, there ARE a ton of girls at UCF. Long distance relationships can be a pain when you're away in college.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

<p>It's always difficult when moving to a different city give it some time to settle in. I agree with everyone else at college you chance. You will outgrow your hometown honey.</p>

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