How to respond to "I'm fat?"

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<p>I hate it when people do that. Just ignore her and maybe she’ll figure out how awkward/stupid she’s being. </p>

<p>(Actually, don’t do that—that was really bad advice.)</p>

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<p>“Prove it”</p>

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<p>“it isnt bad when you turn sideways”. </p>

<p>its basically just female bait for compliments so that when you say " oh no your not fat your so hot " your just another fish on her hook and you have no value</p>

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<p>K, I just read the first page and now I’m thinking.</p>

<p>What would most of you say if a girl says “I’m too skinny”?
I say that alot because I am extremely skinny and people let me know, but I feel just as bad/insecure/selfconcious about it as a fat person does about their weight. And people will be like, your lucky, or something but I don’t like that. You know what I mean?</p>

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<p>That’s why you don’t say “AAAAH I LOVE YOU YOUR SO HOT AND I DONT HAVE ANYONE EXCEPT FOR YOUUUUUUUUUUU.” You have to make compliments <em>and</em> not be a fish on her hook. Girls love when guys who don’t really give a ***** about them give them compliments 'cause then they grow in their own eyes and they like it.</p>

<p>Now, turning back to the original question. There are three kinds of responses:

  1. “no… I think you are very hot… I love you… Please, have sexual interaction with me.” Since compliment is only as good as a guy who makes it, this doesn’t work. You are creepy, awkward, and in general someone who isn’t worth anything for her now.</p>

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<li><p>“Yep, you’re very fat” Sarcasm sucks when a girl is insecure about herself. This way you’re either becoming friends with whom she may joke around or she starts to hate you.
She knows you are not serious but then she comes home, looks in the mirror and says, - Oh my, that guy probably ain’t kidding: I have a millimeter of fat here!</p></li>
<li><p>“Nah.” Stating the fact. Since you aren’t emotional, this works the best way: you are keeping cool and making a compliment. </p></li>
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<p>Okay, now someone must explain to me how to use all this useless knowledge with a certain girl you love very much :(</p>

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<p>Chipset most of your stuff is right on. I don’t know about others, but I generally don’t hear “i’m fat” from girls who could actually be considered fat – i usually hear it from girls who are baiting for compliments. so my sarcasm is usually well placed. in my experience, girls who are really insecure would not bring it up with you. </p>

<p>but girls also happen to be very regional with their attitude and outlook, and i live in NY we have some mean girls who are looking to chew guys up so maybe im a little harsh</p>

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<p>“you JUST realized that?”</p>

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<p>Perfect. :smiley: /<em>comment</em>/</p>

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<p>“What would most of you say if a girl says “I’m too skinny”?
I say that alot because I am extremely skinny and people let me know, but I feel just as bad/insecure/selfconcious about it as a fat person does about their weight. And people will be like, your lucky, or something but I don’t like that. You know what I mean?”</p>

<p>Yes, I do. I’m just naturally skinny… My friends constantly berate me (“You’re so skinny! You need to eat more!”) about this. I eat very well… in fact, I eat more than any of my friends do. They can’t eat cake without remarking, “Oh, this is so unhealthy… I feel so disgusting.” I don’t say things like this, yet I’m criticized by my friends for being born skinny.</p>

<p>Even worse, they give me a hard time about exercising. I love running, and feeling like I’m in shape. If I go a few weeks without running and say casually, “Ugh, I hate feeling out of shape,” they attack me. They huff and say, “[My name], you’re so skinny! You don’t need to exercise! Be quiet, or else we’re going to start thinking that you’re anorexic!” The idea that I don’t equate exercise with weight loss is completely foreign to them. I’m so sick of getting stupid comments about being ‘too skinny’ and ‘unhealthy.’ In fact, my mother and friends don’t even want me to run anymore, because they think that I have some sick mental disorder and want to lose weight.</p>

<p>It just drives me crazy- I’m NOT anorexic, I’m NOT unhealthy, I’m NOT skeletal, and I honestly DON’T CARE how many calories per day I eat. I also hate the fact that no one acknowledges how annoying it is to be at the opposite of the spectrum. It’s not my fault that my collarbones show, or that my rib cage is -sometimes- visible; I usually eat 4,000+ calories a DAY (I eat tons of -healthy- snacks… I’m always hungry due to running and stuff).</p>

<p>It’s not socially acceptable to tell someone, "You’re really fat… that’s unhealthy, but it’s perfectly acceptable to say, “You’re really skinny… what, are you anorexic or something?” Many of you might disagree, but this is every bit as vexing and hurtful. Some of my friends think that I gain some sick pleasure from being told that I’m skinny… guess what? I don’t. I hate it, because being told that I have an eating disorder HURTS.</p>

<p>Wow. That was a long, long rant. I apologize for completely hijacking the thread… but I needed to get that out =)</p>

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<p>^^^completed my life.</p>

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<p>im sorry :(</p>

<p>i have HORRIBLE food issues.</p>

<p>i weighed 102 in second grade (i was like 4’). i gradually lost weight over elementary school, until 5th grade when i was a healthy 90 pounds and 4’8". then, in 6th grade, i gained like 15 pounds. i don’t know why–i’ve just always been obsessed with food. thn last summer, i lost a whole lot of weigh (by exercising/calorie counting) and i weighed like 89 pounds at 5’0" for most of this year. then i just gained 5 pounds.</p>

<p>i am obsessed with food. i can’t help it. i think i’m an emotional eater. but you know what the weird thing is? i honestly did not have the physical feeling of hunger until last summer. i thought hungry meant wanting food.</p>

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<p>Thank you LesOs.
Yeah, like the thing is, I eat a ton of stuff and it’s ALL junk food. and don’t do any sports or excercise at all, all I do is sit here and yeah. But I still just can’t gain weight. I mean it’d be fine if I were shorter, but I’m 5’9" so I have to weigh more than most girls to LOOK normal. But yeah. I feel ya.</p>

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<p>if she’s fat say: “you might need to lose a couple of lbs. But you’re not that bad.”</p>

<p>if she’s not say: “You look amazing! Don’t tell yourself otherwise! Forget what people tell you. You’re awesome, cool, smart, funny, attractive, thin, and nice to be around.” --it’s basically what they’re looking for.</p>

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<p>Or you can say “yeah, lose some weight fattie.”</p>

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<p>tell them “you should eat less. when the clothes come off that fat is really gonna get in the way”</p>

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<p>i agree. if a girl complains that shes fat just ask her to take her shirt off to allow you to make a more valued judgement. </p>

<p>you might get slapped.
but hey, its worth a shot ;)</p>