<p>I also agree that “blame” isn’t productive, and there’s no indication that these parents have anything but the best intentions for their kids. That’s why getting professional help could really turn the tide here-- help for the child, and the parents in parenting a gifted child. The OP is right in that there’s no need to push a kid like his little brother- if anything they need to be allowed to slow down, and a professional might be able to help his parents understand that.</p>
<p>OP, it sounds like your parents are doing the best they can for your brother. They must not have been all bad with you either because you do sound very grounded. But-- as a parent myself, “the best I can do” is sometimes not enough and sometimes actually detrimental. Best intentions can be harmful for some children. (The not allowing your child to cry comment comes to mind here.) If your brother is this distressed at 10 years old, then it will only help all of you to get some insight into what’s going on, as well as some tools for coping (for all of you) and that’s what an outside consult would give you. You, and your parents, are too close to see clearly what’s going on. Your brother wants to please your parents and after all, he is only a little boy. And please don’t assume, because he’s stopped crying for a few days, that everything is fine now. These types of behaviors have a way of returning again and again, and usually in an amplified way as kids get older.</p>
<p>“People who don’t cry tend to be shut off.” - in my experience, people who do not cry are surronded with friends, happy inside and with people and tend to be solving thier problems in most efficient way. Hear the same comments from both of my kids (both adults).</p>
<p>Just damming up the crying doesn’t solve the underlying problem underneath, MiamiDAP.</p>
<p>If someone is physically hurt, and they’re screaming from the pain, and you tell them not to stop screaming, that doesn’t take away the source of the pain. The crying is the symptom of the problem, not the problem itself.</p>
<p>But go ahead, tell this little boy to bury his feelings.</p>
<p>Pizzagirl,
That is waht crying is for, when one hurts. When one is crying all the time, people stop paying attention, then it can get very dangerous, person can loose life when the real problem occurs. And, yes I told my kids and grandkids just that: stop crying or I will take them to emergency room right away. It helped.</p>
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