@greenwitch You say you couldn’t imagine favoring one kid over another. But it is often perception of the kids that doesn’t match that of parents who think they were equitable. My kids have both claimed at one time or another that they think the other is my favorite. Sigh. They are very different, and amazing in their own ways. I try to communicate that, but jealousy is a real thing among sibs. Squinting to see who got the bigger piece of cake doesn’t always stop once they are adults.