<p>To begin, I have this friend that I knew from a year back. She was my only friend in the class, so naturally I thought she was pretty cool. However, this year I’ve realized what kind of person she really is; rude, mean, uncaring, and just a downright female dog for lack of better words. She’ll make fun of my twin sister TO me; sure, I always say I don’t like my sis, but that does NOT make it okay to call her a b*tch right to me!
Basically, I want to stop beginning friends with her but I don’t know how. I see her every other day in P.E, and she’s really clingy too. It doesn’t really help that I’m really forgiving (which frustrates me, I can’t stay mad at people) and I really hate being mean to people. Can someone give me advice? Thank you :] </p>
<p>You should become distant from her. Stop hanging out with her whenever given the chance and just keep telling her you’re busy. Normally, I would be rude on top of that but you don’t like that so just do that first. Calling her out when she does the bichy things helps too (it is harder than it sounds though).</p>
<p>Capture your inner Tyra Banks. </p>
<p>And when she does that mean thing (like insulting your sister), I think you need to be direct. Say that it really bothers you that she slams your family member, and you don’t want to hang out with her if she is going to be like that. I wouldn’t say in a nasty, accusatory way, just in a very matter of fact way. And then I would walk away and not go back. If she wants to cling or hang out again, you can do it – until she does something you consider unpleasant again. And then do the same thing, and walk away. Rinse, repeat until she either stops acting that way or stops hanging out with you.</p>
<p>Thank you for the replies, I think I’ll be direct and firm (but not too mean) and just stop talking to her/hanging out with her… Let’s see how this turns out!</p>