I hope I never live in a place where I need air conditioning, although eastern Wa is liable to be hot this summer. I dont think I know anyone who has air in their house, at least they never invite me over when it’s hot!
This does remind me of when I was in beauty school though.
It was 1978 and H ( we weren’t married till 1981) looked a lot like Nick Nolte except his eyes aren’t so deep set.
I needed someone to practice on, and I talked him into letting me give him a perm.
I only wanted a * tiny* wave, but the instructor came around & made me put smaller rods in. He ended up looking like Art Garfunkel! I also talked him into shaving off his moustache. ( but head hair & facial hair grows back, so he soon looked like his usual self)
I’ve done crazy things with my hair too, mostly in beauty school or afterwards working as a hairstylist.
Asymmetrical hair cut, " wedge" perm, the only one that looks good in retrospect was my Dorothy Hamill hairstyle.
I’m sorry to have missed the blue, pink & purple hair. That would be fun to do.
I find the losing the bet story a little off so maybe.
The husband was depressed and just shaved it because he didn’t feel good about himself.
Or He went and got a haircut and it was really bad so he felt it was better to start all over.
Or He was going grey tried to color it and it turned orange.
Or and I hope this one isn’t it. He found out he has cancer.
That makes no sense. Even if you accept the premise that the guy was having an affair and the other woman wanted him to go bald (?????), the way you'd do that is to deliberately make a big deal out of it ("honey, I think I'm going to shave my head, I think it would look great, don't you agree?") so the wife DOESN'T think anything is amiss. You wouldn't go do it and not discuss it. You'd work it into your everyday conversation as you normally would.
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Yes, you have a point, but you may be over-estimating the foresight abilities of the husband. Not all are that good at “thinking ahead” to avoid questions and suspicions. And, some don’t even really care if their behaviors arouse suspicion…some want the marriage to end, but don’t know how to bring the subject up. Your scenario presumes that the H would want to keep his marriage intact, and that he’s clever enough to think ahead.
It could be that the “lost a bet” explanation isn’t true–if it isn’t, it’s most likely to cover up the fact that there was really no explanation at all for an impulsive decision–“hey, just shave it all off.” It has been my experience that spouses may not accept, “I don’t know why I did it,” as an adequate answer.
^^^^^LOL, my late mother told me once “don’t get serious with any guy who doesn’t know why he does things.” She must have heard “I don’t know why I did it” a time or two before she met my stepdad.
I don’t know any guys of any age who consider their hair their “crowning glory”. To all of them, it’s just hair. Do they mind when it starts thinning? Sure. Going gray? Of course. But unless they’re making a living on their looks, most guys, I don’t think, care. But women sure do, it appears. So whatever the reason was, I think the poor guy in the OP just told his wife whatever it took to stop her from freaking out about HIS crowning glory. I mean, keep in mind that it bothered her SO MUCH that she’s making him wear a hat in her presence.
My S started losing his hair at 17. By 25 he had had enough and come over one day with his head shaved. I don’t think he asked anyone if he should. At 30, he still shaves it, and in a few year, he won’t need to-he’ll look just like his father, who has pretty much no hair at all, WITHOUT shaving. Somehow, no one seems to care about either of their heads either way.
I think I’ve seen the words crowning glory in quotation marks a couple of times now. Who actually is being quoted there? The OP did not use those words.
“But unless they’re making a living on their looks, most guys, I don’t think, care.”
Well DH said he didn’t care until he started taking a new medication for something else and one of the side effects is that his hair is growing back. He seems pretty happy about it.
Your scenario presumes that the H would want to keep his marriage intact, and that he's clever enough to think ahead.
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imo, most of these hypothetical theories presume quite a bit.
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I think that some (including me) think that the “later excuse” seems strangely timed, so that suggests that there may be another explanation.
While men may not refer to their hair as a “crowning glory” (that is more of a feminine thing), I think that many/most men who have a good head of hair are thankful for it and aren’t likely going to actively seek a bald head without a good reason.
I still think the explanation is that the wife got so freaked out and followed/pestered the H demanding why he had messed with his “best feature” (and she DID use those words) and he was so shocked at her response that he chose not to discuss until later.I can almost picture the scene like something out of I Love Lucy, “Aww, Rickyyyy.” So whatever the reason, he came back and told her it was a lost bet, and is happy to only have to wear a hat when she’s around. Obviously HIS hair means more to HER than to HIM.
My H is not on Facebook and I am, so I’ve friended a bunch of his friends from college (who recognize my name) and he keeps up with them through me. The first thing he does is see how much hair they’ve lost, and I think he secretly feels better that while he’s thinning at the crown (no comb-over!!), his hairline is intact. Many of the guys are going bald from the front. Maybe it’s the equivalent of how women look to see if someone gained weight!
I have a male friend who always had a thick, nice looking head of hair. We fell out of touch for a few years then he called and we met for lunch. He walked in sporting the same thick head of hair - gray, very silver fox. He has blue eyes and it looked great, but he could tell I didn’t immediately recognize him. Turns out he had dyed it for years and I had no idea, and finally decided just to let it go gray!
The second my SIL retired she stopped dying and straightening her hair. Whether real or imagined, she believed the look she’d kept all those years was more professional. Maybe the guy in the OP is at a point in his career where it’s no longer considered important to keep a certain look and now was as good a time as any to do something very different.
