<p>Some of you know me from my posts about the octuplet mom. I am the mom of natural triplets…2 in college, 1 disabled due to complications before/during/or after birth. He has cerebral palsy. Yesterday I drove my husband to the ER, because we both knew (from past expereince) that he was having a heart attack. He did…was admitted…and today when they were going to do an angioplasty, opted out, because the blocked artery was one that was previously by-passed…and it is too close to the aorta…in an area that is too diseased:(. Basically, instead of the tune-up he is used to getting almost annually…they weren’t able to treat him today. I have been crying all day, because its the first time they actually told me, this is not good…etc.</p>
<p>I have 2 seniors in college. I told them what was going on, because I was afraid if I didn’t and something awful happened they would be devastated. My parents are both annoyed, because they said I shouldn’t have “spoiled” their senior year…I understand that, but I also know that if it were me, I would have wanted to know.</p>
<p>Today stinks…my kids are great…I had to talk them out of coming home just yet…I have the 3rd guy here to make me smile…but, I am so scared and sad tonight. Guess I just needed somewhere to vent that was a lil anonymous. Thanks for just letting me type, lol…I don’t even know if this makes sense…yikes! I should proof this…lol…nah!</p>
<p>You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there. Of course you had to tell your college seniors. They’re adults. Any of us would have done the same. Do you have a friend or relative who can come stay with you and our third son for a while?</p>
<p>Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and most of all for your husband’s health.</p>
<p>Perhaps the next day or two will bring some options after all the docs have evaluated him. </p>
<p>I think you absolutely did the right thing telling your children. They are old enough to handle the news and you all need each others support in a crisis. </p>
<p>Wow, what a bunch of trouble you have had dropped on you and the kids. Just take a big breath and some time to absorb it. I understand you wanting to share the news with the kids who can manage it, they will probably be glad to know what’s going on - wishing you the best and for a bit of better new with the next tests.
Crossing our collective fingers (toes, etc) for you</p>
<p>My heart goes out to you. You did right to tell your children. They have a right to know and are old enough to handle the bad news. As well, it gives them time to digest the news and prepare for the worst, although we must all hope it will not come to that. Your husband should definitely seek other opinions.<br>
I met a man who had recently retired and gone to FLA. While playing golf, he had an emergency. It turned out he had a brain tumor. The FLA doctor told him to put his affairs in order and that he had only a few days to live. He phone his brother, who was an MD in Boston with the news. The brother got him to Boston pronto. He was operated on. I met him one month later when he was undergoing radio and chemo. He had a slight limp and a slight slur but was otherwise fine and grateful to be alive.
I do hope something like that happens for your husband. My heartfelt wishes to you both.</p>
<p>I hope he gets well very soon. I think you absolutely did the right thing in telling your kids the situation. Make sure you take care of yourself through this as well.</p>
<p>The consensus of learned opinion, including my own, is that you did well to tell your adult children. </p>
<p>I am 58, my mom is 78. She gets annoyed at me all the time for doing things I consider perfectly right and reasonable. My point is that your parents aren’t likely to “grow out” of questioning your judgement. Love’em but politely ignore’em. LOL</p>
<p>Our prayers are with your husband, you and your family at this difficult time. I agree with the others that you did the right thing in telling your children. May you all find strength from each other!</p>
<p>papengena…I am thinking of you. I hope your husband gets some options tomorrow. Hang tight. I hope you have some people near you for support. I think that as hard as it is to tell the kids and disrupt their lives, it was the best thing you could do and they would not be happy if not told. Keep them updated and take it one step at a time. I’m wishing for a full recovery for your husband and sending positive vibes.</p>
<p>Our family’s prayers are with you and your family. Of course telling your children was the right thing to do. But have faith. My FIL has been living for more than a decade with aortic problems the doctors said would probably kill him in months! Best of luck to you all.</p>
<p>Sending well wishes your way. Yes, you were right to tell your children; this coming from someone that was told of both of her father’s heart attacks as a high school senior and again in college. </p>
<p>My father’s first heart attack was when he was 45, he is now almost 80! Both were major attacks, he has over 90% blockage on one side, is not a candidate for a balloon, and is diabetic; but he as active as many younger men.</p>
<p>You might hear of other options as time goes on. Hang in there and pray for the best.</p>
<p>pagpangena – I will pray for you and wish your husband the strength to pull through this. I understand your shock. My husband suffered cardiac arrest last summer the day before his 50th birthday while we were on vacation out of state with our kids (high school senior/college sophomore). He had a 2 percent chance of survival and was on life support for almost 3 weeks, and at one point he went into cardiac arrest while in the hospital. We were told he wasn’t going to make it. As it turns out, he has now made a full recovery and we are so grateful to have him with us. Stay strong and be sure to take care of yourself.</p>
<p>Papengena, here’s wishing you strength. Do get a second opinion ASAP and from a teaching hospital, if you are not at one. There are new discoveries being made all the time and new techniques being developed. Your current doctors sound wonderful and seem to have managed your husband’s condition very well, but if they feel they can’t offer you good alternatives, maybe someone else can. Maybe another doctor has been working on solutions to exactly the problem your H now has. I have heard of this happening to others who have had bypasses, so I don’t think it is all that uncommon. </p>
<p>Good luck to you and your H, and you were absolutely right to tell your adult children.</p>