<p>My son is doing ok. I don’t think he actually understands how serious it is, but I don’t want to under estimate him. He probably knows alot more then I think he does. He’s very protective of mom, so he’s being extra sweet right now. He’s never any trouble to begin with, so thats saying alot, lol. I feel it was the right thing to tell the other kids…they are being very supportive, and I do think they would have resented finding out after the fact. My parents have been spending alot of time with the son thats home with me…so, he’s getting alot of extra attention. His uncle is coming to take him out today…its a long day for him to hang around the hospital, so its great that my family can step in to help out with him.</p>
<p>I’m going to head over to the hospital now. I’ll let you know how things are going later. Thanks again for all the positive thoughts!</p>
<p>I, too, would have told my kids. If nothing else, YOU need some support! </p>
<p>I just spent the better part of 2 months visiting my mom in the hospital. Be sure to take care of yourself - drink liquids, and try to rest (use a sleeping rx if you must). Even just sitting in a chair in a hospital room is stressful and draining. </p>
<p>Best wishes and thoughts for you and your DH… hopefully within a few days they’ll have some better options for treating him then they’re giving you now.</p>
<p>Continuing to hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I am so glad you have family to help, though it does mean hearing all their opinions! They mean well, but you can trust yourself to listen and then make your own best decisions. Please take care of yourself. You and your family need your health, your strength, and your clear head.</p>
<p>Hang in there! I can’t imagine not telling both of my kids key things related to the health of me or hubby or close loved ones! You certainly did right, even tho your parents don’t initially understand this need.</p>
<p>Take a deep breath and work closely with the docs in exploring the options to figure out which ones are best for you & hubby. Medical science is pretty amazing and has done good things in advancing options available.</p>
<p>Hopefully your folks will come around and be more supportive now, when you need them. Sometimes our parents are at a loss in crises because their generation was into “ignorance is bliss,” which is very different from the way we & our children prefer.</p>
<p>Take good care of yourself and your other child–keep your strength up!</p>
<p>You and your family are in my thoughts…and like others, I agree that you were right to tell your children. At that age, I would have been very angry if my mom kept important news of a health crisis from me about my dad. </p>
<p>It’s so frightening when you don’t have all the answers from the doctors yet; a person just assumes the worst. But there are so many new treatments & procedures out there. </p>
<p>Take care of yourself. I’ll say a prayer for you.</p>
<p>papengena–keeping you and your family in my prayers. Something like this puts the college process in persepective in a hurry. Hope you’re getting better news today.</p>
<p>papengena—I just read of your tough few days. Keep strong and take care of yourself as well as your family. You are fortunate to have raised three good kids. Enjoy their support and love. You are in our thoughts and prayers.</p>
<p>Adding my prayers and the same sage advice everyone else has. You were right to tell your children. Keep looking for another opinion. Take care of yourself. Let the rest of your family help in productive ways – with your S at home, running errands for you, tossing in a load of laundry, keeping healthy food in the fridge.</p>
<p>Update us when you can, but we know your top priority is lying in that hospital bed and he’s counting on you to help navigate this journey.</p>
<p>Adding my best wishes as well. When my husband had a heart incident and was hospitalized a couple of years ago I didn’t call my college boys until the next morning when we knew what it was. But as soon as we knew I called them both. Luckily it was good news, but I would have told them either way.</p>
<p>I am really so touched by all the kindness you’ve all shown your cyber freind. I brought a special dinner to H, for V-Day…we had a nice time. There isn’t really any new news to tell. His Cardiologist is on vacation and comes back tomorrow. They most likely won’t decide what to do next until Monday. Right now they are just keeping him comfortable, with morphine and xanax. They haven’t done anything, so for now we just have to wait. I am alot calmer today…and I think alot of that is because I have so much support from family and freinds…and a new bonus in my life, is the wonderful compassion of the people on this website. You just can’t know how much it means to me that you all even responded to my crazy, hysterical post. I’m getting back to myself…and can only chock up my response yesterday as shock.</p>
<p>Bless you all for being so amazingly supportive…and a special thank you to all who sent me private messages. It is so unusual to think that people who don’t even know me, were sending such supportive thoughts to us.</p>
<p>I will never forget how much you all helped me get thru one of the most awful nights of my life.</p>