<p>I spent the entire day cooking yesterday, made a bunch of things for the coming week that everyone was looking forward to.</p>
<p>When he went to work last night, my husband was looking for something and took out all the food and didn’t put it back!!! It all went bad. An entire day of work, about $100 worth of food. All gone. I am so angry that I could cry.</p>
<p>Vent over.</p>
<p>I am sorry all your hard work went to waste. I hope he is contrite. Is he going to make it up to you ? Maybe he can cook for the next week.</p>
<p>Oh zoosermom, how frustrating. You don’t want to be his mom but, cause and effect should go into play here - how about sandwiches for dinner for the rest of the week? Need something to make him pay attention in the future. </p>
<p>Just a thought :)</p>
<p>You guys are all great! The problem is that he’s working both jobs today, so I won’t even see him to yell! He’s the one who cooks during the week because I get home so much later than he does. My husband means well, but he’s a monstrously terrible cook and he IS contrite so he’ll cook all week. More’s the pity. All my lovely food, gone! I had taken some recipes from Food and Wine and Martha Stewart to try out for Thanksgiving. But such is life, right? Thanks for listening!</p>
<p>I feel for you. Still, with the economic situation in the country, lots of people are under stress and are doing things that are thoughtless that otherwise they wouldn’t do.</p>
<p>My advice is to have make your own sandwiches for the rest of the week.</p>
<p>$100 worth of food and how much $$ value to your time?</p>
<p>My deepest sympathies.</p>
<p>“The problem is that he’s working both jobs today”</p>
<p>Between him working two jobs, and your being on a different work schedule than he is, I imagine that things are extra stressful in both of your lives. Perhaps having make your own sandwiches plus making space for a time to do something fun together even if it means watching a movie on TV could be in order. It is so easy to make mistakes when one is stressed and has little time to really connect in a good way with one’s loved ones.</p>
<p>Considering he’s working 2 jobs, I’m sure your H is as upset as you are about the $100 of ruined food.</p>
<p>Years ago, my own marriage almost broke up because due to work schedules, H and I seldom saw each other, and when we did see each other, it was more a time to catch up on chores and problems than to connect with each other in a nice way.</p>
<p>Hugs to you.</p>
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Oh he’s more upset because he knows he’s now stuck with his own cooking! You’re exactly right, it’s insane around here at this time of year because of his work schedule and he just goofed up. It happens. Which is why I’m raving to all of you instead of him. Thanks for the kind and wise words!</p>
<p>Oh Z’mom…I’m sorry to hear about this. I guess the only “advice” I can offer is to always walk through the kitchen after DH leaves for work…maybe a crisis the next time can be avoided.</p>
<p>An entire day of work, about $100 worth of food. </p>
<p>ZOOZER---------Ill be right over. You hold’em while I punch em in the stomach.</p>
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Oh yeah! We have a rule in our house that the last one in has to check the stove because he leaves the burners on so often, but I hadn’t thought of the fridge! That’s next.</p>
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I love how you think!!!</p>
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Since he’s working two jobs, I’d give him a break. I’m sure he didn’t do it on purpose and inadvertently left it out just like some people sometimes leave the fridge door open, a light on, the door unlocked, the water on, etc. These kinds of things tend to increase when people get less sleep than usual or are on a different schedule than normal.</p>
<p>Still, the loss of the hundred bucks worth of food and the prep time could be offset by the less expensive and quick to make sandwiches. He can feel that in his stomach, so to speak, so no need to punch him.</p>
<p>Well, zmom, I offered on another thread to stop by with a cake…how about I bring a lasagne, too? 
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<p>How frustrating this must be!!!</p>
<p>Can anything be salvaged?</p>
<p>I probably would eat lots of things that have been left out overnight.</p>
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Come on over!!! You’re all making me feel so much better and by the time he comes home, I’ll be calm, reasonable and understanding. Aren’t I wonderful?</p>
<p>Yes, you are wonderful. :)</p>
<p>Great idea to come here to vent instead of holding it all in and venting to your husband later.</p>
<p>More hugs and a cyber casserole to you.</p>
<p>Thank you, thank you, thank you!</p>
<p>I don’t know about you, but I could use a pre-holiday fasting period. Maybe this will inspire one. Sorry about your loss.</p>
<p>It’s good that you can come here and vent but be sure to “talk” with your DH. I’m sure he feels terrible about it but talk to him…you are his wife and partner not his mother so admonishing him wouldn’t be the answer.<br>
If you feel the need to follow behind him all the time I’m sure that is not a pleasant feeling for either of you. But, just my opinion. Just putting myself in his shoes.</p>
<p>At this point, it is a loss and he’ll have to cook for the week since you already did and that’s gone. Hopefully, he will apologize, even if it was simply a careless mistake (we all make 'em) and recognize the work you had put into those meals. Don’t yell at him though.</p>
<p>For the NEXT time (assuming you will to this again)…post BIG signs on the fridge along the lines of “I just shopped and cooked for all the dinners for this week and they are in the fridge. If anyone nibbles or takes anything out of the fridge, PLEASE double check that it all goes back in where you found it. Thanks!” While everyone likely knows that, it can’t hurt to leave big reminders to jar someone (hopefully) into remembering. I suppose for overkill (if you think he needs this)…leave a note on the door where people exit the house with a question: “Did ya remember to put all food back in the fridge?” :D</p>