@UGG2023 — Absolutely. I think I single room would be ideal for my tastes. They are rather competitive, but it’s worth a shot. Also, I would definitely pursue dorms targeting groups, such as if there’s a dorm for STEM majors, one for non-drinking, one healthy living, etc., especially if I research it and find that it suits my fancy. Thanks
I would think most college bathroom set-ups would offer more privacy than your average high school gym locker room.
@Groundwork2022 — Unfortunately — or perhaps fortunately — I’ve never been to a high school locker room.
Do you not have physical education at your school?
I think you may surprise yourself after you get used to school. My D feels very very much at home.
And D’s dorm is another that has locked single shower areas with loads of privacy and an area to leave clothing if you don’t want to walk around in a robe or towel.
Once you decide which school you will attend, go to that schools sub forum and people will give you advice on where to live
@thumper1 — I have never attended a traditional school. I’ve done tons of physical education; however, there has never been lockers.
Lots of college dorms have a suite setup whereby a few rooms share a bathroom. It’s like walking from your bedroom at home to the bathroom. What do you wear to do that when you are going to take a shower?
And yes, as noted, the bathroom doors usually have a little lock on them…like any public bathroom does.
@momofsenior1 — Yeah, I think I’d feel quite at-home if I had private showers and somewhere directly attached to change. I really don’t mind being around other people on a consistent basis — I think I make friends fairly easily — so everything else would work out.
I would suggest that you do something outside of your not traditional school (whatever that means). Maybe swim lessons at the Y, tennis lessons at a place, or something like that.
The other thought…if you are this “concerned” about every aspect of residential college life, perhaps there is an online program you can pursue, or some college closer to home where you can commute.
Do you not have siblings? What happens in your home when you need to share living spaces?
@thumper1 — I think it would be fine if I was just sharing the bathroom with a few people. I was more concerned about wearing a towel or robe around strangers — and unknown women.
@thumper1 — Yeah, I have applied to the only college within commuting distance to me, and I’ve been accepted. I don’t think I’m immensely concerned or scared. It’s really just something I am looking to prepare for, if I have to live in such circumstances.
I do have siblings, but it’s different because I’m comfortable around them.
You can wear a bathrobe. You don’t have to wear a towel.
@jym626 — Where would I change? Is there any private place to do so?
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/home-schooling-college/
There is a whole section on CC about homeschooled kids and college. Maybe someone there will help with your “concerns”.
@thumper1 — That’s a good resource.
You’ve been given much good advice on the multiple threads you’ve posted. Hopefully this knowledge will reduce your anxiety and push you out of your comfort zone so you can grow as a person.
My oldest (although he wasn’t homeschooled like yourself) had social anxiety and quirks throughout his public schooling. He’s at a dorm in a tech school and thriving. He’s grown so much his first few months of school.
@VinceLestrade you would change wherever you planto change your clothes to get dressed every day or go to bed every night. It isn’t that hard.
@2plustrio — That’s good to hear. I hope I can find a school and living situation that fits me and allows me to improve as an individual. I agree with what many commenters are saying in that college is a way to develop and improve — that’s certainly why I’m attending a college; if that process involves challenging myself, then so be it. Life is full of challenges and adaptations to match, so it’s something I have to get used to. I’m sure my anxieties will lessen once I begin to explore whatever college I end up attending.
@jym626 — Yeah, but I mean I wouldn’t want to change in my dorm room if I had a roommate — they could barge in at any time — and changing in the shower would be potentially difficult. I just hope the shower installations are large enough at the dorm to facilitate changing. I know it’s impossible to suggest specifics without having experience with whatever college I end up going to, so I’m really just looking for personal experience or any info available.
I agree with @momofboiler1 .
You will get over it.
It’s a new experience for you. Most people feel some trepidation when presented with something new. I know I was very nervous about the prospect of being forced to live with a stranger, being forced to take showers in a communal bathroom.
I got over it. You will too, @VinceLestrade .
Right now, it might seem like the most frightening thing you can imagine. By the end of your freshman year, you might be ready to take a shower on stage in the student union.