<p>let’s say, you used to be in this program that was advocating for something you didn’t particularly care about, but you joined it because they were giving away free things and you did it for the social gathering. and then, at one point, you feel like you like what they’re advocating, and you think this is what you might like to do. and you tell them, and they gladly help you, and set you up with people like them to show you around. these are nice and supportive people, though they did frighten you a little sometimes, mainly b/c you knew you didn’t fit in. and then, you soon discover that this isn’t what you like, and sometimes you wonder if they have brainwashed, tricked, or deceived you into it b/c of all the free things and toys they were giving out. so you forget it, and move on. but now, this program is struggling and is threatned to be shut down. they ask for your help to write letters and share your experience. but oh no! you don’t even believe in them anymore, and you can’t really force yourself to lie about something like this. they have helped you once, and you’d feel bad if you didn’t help back, but at the same time, you don’t really want to waste the state’s money to continue something you didn’t really believe in. what do you do?</p>
<p>Tell them you have realized you don’t really believe in their program so you don’t feel it would be appropriate for you to write letters of support.</p>
<p>you’re kidding right? that’s such a blunt thing to say… very difficult.</p>
<p>Well it is what I would say if i truly did not believe in the program. You can be polite about it - “I’m sorry but the reason I am no longer a member is because I realized I don’t really agree with your program so it would be dishonest of me to write letters saying otherwise”. </p>
<p>You absolutely should not write letters of support for something you seem to strongly not believe in - especially based on your comments about feeling brainwashed, tricked or deceived. </p>
<p>Or you could just say you will have to think about it and not do it. Or avoid them and run in the other direction if they approach you ;)</p>
<p>What are they advocating?</p>
<p>Grow some stones, don’t write any letters of support, and tell them that you don’t want to write letters of support. Not sure what the issue is here.</p>
<p>^but these people have helped you when you needed them. how can it be so easy to just turn them down when they’re dying? this program means everything to them. and this is what YOU would do… not what i should do…</p>
<p>That is what I’d do.</p>
<p>But the incredible vagueness of your premise makes it hard to say what anyone would do. How have they helped me when I needed them? What I got from your paragraph was “I went to a couple meetings, hung around, got free food and toys, met a couple people”. Not sure why one would owe them. What kind of organization is it, some kind of cult?</p>
<p>all right spill it, what did you join?</p>
<p>and why exactly is it being shut down? lack of funding or something else?</p>
<p>It depends on the situation. If you joined the KKK and they gave you cookies and milk but you realized you really don’t like burning crosses and wearing white hoods and partaking of unpleasant and racist activities then you should stand your moral high ground and not write letters of support. if you joined the Save the pink and purple spotted buzzing honey moth society and a member donated a kidney to you, and the society paid your medical bills and nursed you back to health but you realized you don’t really give a damn about the Pink and Purple spotted buzzing honey moth but have no strong moral feelings against them being saved then write a letter of support.</p>
<p>Scenarios in between these extremes you need to make a judgement call based on your own beliefs and morals. No ones else can really decide that for you.</p>
<p>hahaha, “hypothetical” my ass</p>
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hahahaha, very funny and also very true.</p>
<p>Good one, swimcatsmom.</p>
<p>Just because someone in that group helped you doesn’t mean that you have to support the group.</p>
<p>You are really being too vague about this, which makes it hard to know what one should do. If this is like a breast cancer awareness group, then why not help them out? If this is some crazy religious group that you think brainwashed you, why would you want to essentailly enable others to be hurt by them? If we knew the group it would really help. If this group is good (but just not for your tastes) then why not help them out?</p>
<p>Besides, doesn’t the group have more people that could write letters or are they desperate to find someone that supports them?</p>
<p>hypothetical? Thats pretty detailed for a hypothetical question</p>