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<p>You’re thinking that her big problem is inability to come up with a plan to clear out the stuff. What’s hard to see is that the accumulation of stuff is a symptom, not the disease. Well-intentioned offers to help only address the symptom and won’t help in the long run, or probably even in the short run. Her H’s threats and anger are counter-productive at best. The underlying emotional issues have to be dealt with first, or concurrently with the cleanup, and it sounds like in your friend’s case a mental health professional needs to get involved.</p>