I am my biggest critic

<p>Well I'm new here and about to enter college. My main problem is I have a big self esteem issue. I mean I've had friends and bf's and I've had pretty good times in my life, but every day I come home and I just lay down at night hating myself. Like I wish I wasn't so shy, I wish I didn't screw up job interviews, I wish I wasn't too shy to dance in public and I wish I wasn't so obsessed with my bf (we are going to break up) and I hate how everyone tells me that I am way too good for him (Deep down I know it's true). I can never do anything with confidence, and I want to know how or if I can change myself in college. Like next year there's this guy that is a year older that I knew in HS and it happens that I will be attending college with him. I had the biggest crush on him my junior year when he was a senior. He really is cute and a lot of girls think so. He tells me that we can hang out so much next year since we'll be going to college together. I mean I think I have a shot with him if I wouldn't be so shy and awkward around him. I guess it's because I think he is too cute for me or something. Ok I've talked way to much. So how should I become more confident in college?</p>

<p>More than likely your college offers free or low cost counseling. Use that service.</p>

<p>Be more outgoing, meet new people, try new things.
For example, on the first day of class, turn to the person next to you and introduce yourself, do this in all of your classes and you will always have someone you know who you will be comfortable with.</p>

<p>Well I'm thinking since I practically don't know anyone....I should be more friendly!!
And for sure I don't want to get into a long term relationship again.
I mean people get a long with me pretty easy, I am really laid back. I just I am too shy to ask them to hang out so we end up just being cool classroom friends haha.</p>

<p>Woah. You sound exactly like me. But you're a girl, so you're not exactly like me. Woah. ;)</p>

<p>Fall of freshmen year is the easiest time to meet people and to try new things. All of the campus organizations will be recruiting new members, and it will be OK if you don't know much about the organization because you've never before gotten involved in the type of things it does.</p>

<p>So.. if you have a secret desire to try something new, freshman year of college is the perfect time to do so.</p>

<p>Also, when you get involved with an organization, get really involved. Get on committees. That's a great way of getting to know people.</p>