<p>Are their any others who hope that this Thankgiving your son or daughter will unload the turkey in their life?</p>
<p>I could only hope that my daughter will wake up and realize that her old boyfriend is getting in the way of her moving forward emotionally, socially, and the big one academically. He just always seems to be in the picture at the wrong time…big test…paper to write…sorority events. I have kept quiet, but this guy who I once thought was wonderful is just a pain in the ### and my daughter was doing so much better without him and his control freak ways. Yes…I am ranting.</p>
<p>Or like my son’s ex-girlfriend, who broke up with him by e-mail while he was visiting us (on the opposite side of the country from where they go to graduate school) for a few days during Christmas break.</p>
<p>This boyfriend has turned my daughters life upside down for so long but we have just realized what an effect he has had. I don’t care who dumps who but I just hope someone does the dumping because this guy is a manipulative control freak and is turning this holiday into a mess and it is only Tuesday.</p>
<p>soozie, sadly, in the age of Facebook and texting this seems to be an acceptrable practice among teens. My DD’s BF broke up with her by texting her (but then tried to un-break up by texting, too :eek: - she was furious). If you can be fired by e-mail, why not dump your GF or BF in a similar manner.</p>
<p>Or be a real louse like the wife of our best man. She walked out on him on Christmas Morning, four days before our wedding. She just told him she was moving to CHILE and had a plane to catch in three hours. First indication he had. Needless to say he was not the most joyful man at our wedding.</p>
<p>Yes, l understand and that’s why I said it reminded me of a note in the middle school locker. I get that TEENS do this. But Marian was talking about GRAD students! They are at least over 22. In that regard, breaking up via email, tweet, text, etc. seems immature and cowardly, not to mention disrespectful.</p>
<p>Ha. That’s how my former spouse notified me that our 13-year marriage was going to end. An email sent to me at work that was there for me to read when I arrived. I didn’t get much done that day.</p>
<p>Let me say that I realize that college kids, grown ups, and spouses do this. I know! Just saying that such behavior reminds me of middle school locker notes but just going digital in the internet age, but it seems middle school behavior. For someone in an adult relationship or marriage to not have enough decency to tell the partner verbally in their presence, or at least by phone, is immature, cowardly, disrespectful and bad.</p>
<p>I’ll add one more thing…it is controlling too, because it blocks discussion, or a reply from the partner.</p>
<p>Isn’t there also a name for the “drop” during Christmas. In other words, if you don’t have the turkey drop, the next holiday is only weeks away!</p>
<p>I think the worse is when one of the partners in a relationship change their relationship status to “single” without having any conversation at all. It has never been an issue for my D but I have seen it happen to many of her friends. Simply brutal. Of course it times like these that provide a platform to speak with our children.</p>
<p>Changing the facebook status to single? Ouch! Although is there is a good way to break up? I wonder about that.</p>
<p>I know it’s terrible but the phrase “turkey drop” really makes me laugh. Let’s see if we can come up with one for winter holiday? Ham Hock? Tinsel Toss?</p>
<p>^^^ haha Tinsel Toss. Love it. My son’s GF pulled the single-status-without-conversation move on FB as well. Broke his heart. I can totally get where you’re coming from on this one. Even though they’ve been ‘broken up’ for a few weeks, she continues to play him like a fiddle, pleading with him to come home for a visit, then ignoring his calls when he makes the effort. We silently (mostly;) watch as our stomachs turn…worrying that she’s a huge distraction with his studies. So I’m with you! Bring on the TD!! Let us know how things go and good luck!</p>
<p>Unless you’re afraid of violence or something like that, there’s really no reason not to have a conversation like this in person. A text message or an e-mail is okay-ish, if you’re younger, but there’s really no reason why you should do something like over Facebook (!). I mean, come on, there’s no way that anyone who does that would approve of it if it happened to them.</p>