<p>I guess the “logical consequences” of indiscriminate sex (i.e. casual sex) you’re referring to is sexually transmitted disease? </p>
<p>“Telling them no” is quite different from telling them it is wrong to engage in casual, indiscriminate sex. </p>
<p>I don’t have a problem telling my kids that promiscuous sex is wrong (not just unhealthy). I believe if more parents were willing to do so, they’d be doing their kids a big favor–for a variety of reasons; not only health, but also emotional and psychological reasons.</p>
<p>The great “safe sex” hoax cost $6.5 billion to cover medical costs to treat STD’s acquired by American youth in 2,000, according to the article posted. (Incidentally, this was before Bush became President.) Why do I have to pay for your kids’ sex lives?</p>
<p>On the other hand, at least those billions accomplish something – treating the disease. The billion or so that the federal government has spent on programs to promote abstinence have had an absolutely stunning lack of effect on anything – abstinence, age of first intercourse, number of partners, likelihood of getting STDs. They don’t even, as their critics feared, produce more unprotected sex.</p>
<p>Tikib: Trust me, this won’t be a problem, even at schools where there is a lot of casual sex. I go to Wesleyan, where people are liberal and open about, well, everything, and lots of people have casual hookups/sex. And yet, within my group of freshmen friends (which was not formed around similar notions of sexual values):</p>
<p>–Myself and my BF were in a monogamous, long term relationship and took having sex very seriously as a relationship thing.
–Most of my male friends were either in committed LDRs or were looking for some sort of relationship, not casual hookups (one tried a couple times and it didn’t work out, a couple others just didn’t have sex, or really any kind of sexual activity this year, since they couldn’t make a relationship get that far).
–Most of the girls tried either dating (like, literally getting coffee with a guy) or at least attempted to have a real relationship spring out of mutual attraction (and a few definitely succeeded, at least for a while).</p>
<p>I mean, yes, I had one friend who went looking for casual sex, and some who sometimes hooked up causally with friends/acquaintances (though I don’t think any went as far as sex). But the general trend in this group of friends was that even those who had some casual hookups were really looking for a more meaningful relationship in the long run. So, it’s totally possible to find people with those ideas…I did it without trying, so I’m sure it could be done even more thoroughly if your daughter actively sought out people with similar morals/goals!</p>
<p>^^And having said so, trust your child to abide by your advice. Hooking up is not a contagious disease. You can’t catch it merely because you go a school where some are involved in the practice.</p>
<p>^^Frankly, that is totally in error. The climbing STD rates affect all kids.</p>
<p>If my kid makes the mistake of sleeping with the wrong girl for the first time, he could be sleeping with her twenty previous partners, correct?</p>
<p>I thought we were supposed to look out for the younger generation–our responsibility as adults. I’ve found that this is the one area where that is not acceptable. If someone has an answer for that, I’d like to hear it.</p>
<p>The only safeguard is total virginity for both partners until marriage and total monogamy thereafter.
As you point out, one does not need to engage in casual sex to be exposed; so just avoiding people engaged in hooking up is not a fail-safe solution.</p>
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<p>Is there any indication that the incidence or risk of STDs is higher on college campuses than in the non-college population of the same age? I would think that it’s lower, risky practices being negatively correlated with education.</p>
<p>What are you asking for, with these prayers? No sex on campus? no STDs?"</p>
<p>It was meant as a joke. </p>
<p>However, if I were to pray, it would be that my children remember all I have taught them in great detail since birth about STD and sexuality. They are very well informed, so I’m not worried!</p>
<p>That’s a great idea, except that most kids don’t go around with tattoos on their foreheads informing potential partners what std’s they carry (if they even know–not a given).</p>
<p>A reduction in sexual partners that kids have will result in a reduction in the proliferation of std’s–something people are unwilling to discuss for some reason, opie.</p>
<p>“Most college students are not inclined to come forward for help with potential STDs even when symptoms are present because they are afraid that health professionals and their peers will look down upon them.”</p>
<p>"That’s a great idea, except that most kids don’t go around with tattoos on their foreheads informing potential partners what std’s they carry (if they even know–not a given).</p>
<p>A reduction in sexual partners that kids have will result in a reduction in the proliferation of std’s–something people are unwilling to discuss for some reason, opie."</p>
<p>1.One of the things they were taught was to not be promiscuous.</p>
<p>2.They had excellent sex education at school in addition to education at home.</p>
<p>3.They knew enough and were smart enough by the time they reached sexual maturity, since they were heavily taught and educated, to conclude multiple sex partners can cause diseases.</p>
<p>How many people have to say it and how many times do you need to be told? Reread the multiple posts to help you figure it out. Good luck!</p>