<p>Sybbie, I hope you are right; I agree that a good GC in this situation would do the rec very quickly and neither be upset nor tell the AP. I have, however, in schools and corporations, seen similar situations where the subordinate is afraid to do the right thing, or fearful of being discovered (such as by a secretary who might see the duplicative recs) and goes to his or her boss, who then “blames the victim”, in this case the child, which this AP seems to have done already.
Mom2, I suspect the AP will deny using those words and the principal would side with him absent writen proof.</p>
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<p>Oh, I know…but it will likely also get the rec written. especially if the parent requests that the AP state when he’ll do the rec.</p>
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<p>Not always true, unfortunately. Our very capable val was denied admission to our state flagship because her app was “incomplete” due only to an omission by the HS counseling office that caused her app to be considered late in the rolling admit process. She is now attending a top 10 U. But this was a travesty.</p>
<p>OP – If you have any kind of a decent relationship with the GC, this is the time to cut your losses with the AP and get the form filled out by that GC. Maybe you can finesse it by saying that you’re feeling very bad for even asking the AP to do it as he is clearly super busy with other things and you feel as if you’re pressuring the poor man. You know that the GC is also super busy, but knowing that she has a whole lot of experience with this kind of thing, would she be able to do it – only does she have the time to do it very, very soon as S is applying to a rolling admissions school and the spaces are filling up even as you speak? Be sure to have a very good CV with all of your son’s activities/interests/goals for her, and maybe even a copy of his essays. See if your son can have a brief meeting with her before she writes the letter. With the AP, apologize profusely for having bothered him during this very busy time of year – the point being to neutralize the creep so that he doesn’t do anything that could possibly hurt your son.</p>
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<p>Exactly.</p>
<p>The OP has a right to be angry, and obviously to take action. By contrast, the bitter hijack was unnecessary.</p>