<p>I got accepted into an all girls school in Boston. I’ve always wanted to live in Boston, and I go visit every year because I have family over there. However, now that the option is actually here, I’m freaking out. </p>
<p>It’s not that I have a problem separating from my family, I’m just afraid of how my family will get on without me. Everyone in my family is disabled and can’t work. My mother is having really bad back and leg problems, and it’s difficult for her to walk and drive. Right now, I do all the driving, and shopping. My father can’t drive either. </p>
<p>I know that, obviously when I’m in school, my mom drives, and she goes to the doctor herself when I’m not home, and if she has to shop she can. But I feel bad, because I feel like I would be intentionally making life harder for them, and that I would only be thinking of myself</p>
<p>My English teacher, who I am very close to, said that if I stay, and go to a local university which has already accepted me, I will probably eventually be angry at my family for keeping me down and not letting me study and live where I would like to go. To be honest, I know that I stay where I am now, I will most likely be taking care of my family for the rest of my life.</p>
<p>Money isn’t an issue, since I’ve been offered full rides to both places. What is your input? I have no one else to ask! A part of me kind of hopes I really hate the school in Boston when I visit next week so I don’t feel too bad if I decide to turn it down and stay, but I highly doubt that will happen.</p>
<p>This is your answer. On some level, your family is already making you feel guilty for leaving, so you are questioning yourself. When you leave, it will be rough for awhile, but you need to do it so you don’t resent your family later.</p>
<p>This is your answer. On some level, your family is already making you feel guilty for leaving, so you are questioning yourself. You want to leave. Do it. When you leave, it will be rough for awhile, but you need to do it so you don’t resent your family later.</p>
<p>As a parent, I would hate to think that my teenage D was denying herself important life opportunities because she felt an obligation to take care of me. Your parents surely understand that they cannot rely on you forever to meet their day-to-day needs, and they might actually be distressed about your turning down an affordable opportunity out of a sense of guilt. </p>
<p>Do not assume that choosing to go away now is the selfish route. Doing so may actually allow you to be better prepared to help them later, if it opens up educational and economic opportunities for you. You can’t expect to spend the rest of your life driving your parents around. You have to get education and training so you can support yourself (and help your parents in the long run, if necessary).</p>
<p>Check into what services are available for your parents. My parents were able to use a service that came to their home, picked them up, and drove them to appts, etc. </p>
<p>Others here can direct you to who/where you should go to find out about these offerings in your area. What state/county are you in?</p>