@Mark217 That sounds like a good plan. Enjoy your Thanksgiving!
@gearmom So thanksgiving weekend was pretty good in general. However, a family member and friend suggested that I tell my mom how our past makes me depressed and ask her to apologize. I told them I’d do that, but I didn’t feel depressed this weekend. I was also scare what she was going to say and it might start an argument. Also I felt that might not be the right thing to say. So I just asked her how is everything and if she’s ok with me coming home. She seem pretty good and say it’s ok for me to come back as long as I don’t come too much. She seems pretty good this long weekend. I’m currently not depressed, but maybe a little on the inside. But because I didn’t ask what my family member wants, he’s kind of mad at me. Do you think I should still tell her how I feel and ask her to apologize like they suggested? I feel it might not be the right thing to say and it may start an argument.
@Mark217 Parents don’t usually apologize to their children. I think you need to let that go. If you’re not depressed and you have had a good time at home and she was not abusive, then you are winning. She sounds lukewarm about the relationship. Leave it and form other positive relationships in your life. I don’t know why the advice giver is mad at you. You give advice of people ask and then you respect them enough to let them make their one decision. You can’t change the past with her but it sounds like your future might be O’k. Why not let it ride unless she becomes a problem.
@gearmom Thanks for your quick reply and staying with the conversation
Yea that’s what I thought, asking her to apologize is not right. It might create more conflicts. For now I’m just going to leave it and go through with life unless something happens.
@Mark217 Focus on adding good people into your life. You deserve happiness. I’m glad you had a nice holiday.
Checking back on this thread. I am glad you had a good Thanksgiving and hope you had a good Christmas as well, and hoping your depression stays away. Good for you for being the mature one for the holiday! Sometimes letting go is the right thing to do, another time you may want to speak up. It’s okay to just want to have a calm holiday and not start a fight. Remember, this is your family, it may be deeply flawed but they are around. You are not alone.