OP: If you developed both insomnia and migraine headaches at this school, then you need to transfer as it clearly is not a healthy environment for you.
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It sounds like you had some real niche requirements in a college and perhaps didnât research this one very well before applying and deciding to go there. Things like info on diversity and whether a college is known as a âcommuter schoolâ are widely available on the collegeâs own website or on various social media sites (Reddit).
You are one of thousands of new college students who have had roommate issues (including both of mine when they were freshman). Do your best to work through it and make a different decision when it comes to choosing for next year. If you really canât bear it, most colleges will help you make a switch to another room (assuming one is available).
I also believe you need more time to adjust and to perhaps widen your horizons with regard to the different ethnicities and cultures on your campus. If your feelings of underrepresentation persist, then by all means pursue a transfer but make sure you do your due diligence so youâre not replacing one disappointment with another.
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Maybe, cut down on the cannabis alone in your room? This chronic attention to everyoneâs differences could be a by-product of all that rabbit-hole thinking.
Iâve been involved in Black communities my entire life and in my experience, no one really cares where your parents come from. There are enough things going on in American culture and politics to bring the African diaspora together - especially at the college level. Things could be SO much worse; you could be someplace where the diversity is very low - and then where would you be? And finally, you did mention having â1-3 friendsâ. How many do you need?
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The only thing I am confused on is how did you end up at this school with your requirements you need /want in a college?
I would be very careful if considering transferring if you donât research the schools student body first, if this is a major concern for you, prior to this transfer.
Also I donât think you realize that college isnât high school. This might be your first time living side by side with someone you donât really know. As long as the person is cordial is probably the best you can expect. All of my sons roommates at a large Uni were just cordial at best. It wasnât the bestie that maybe he initially wanted.
You state you are active on campus. Thatâs awesome. Keep doing that. Go to a doctor and evaluate your migraine. It might not be what you think it is. That will ease your insomnia also.
Just try to be friends with people that want to be friends back. Regardless of what they look like but honestly I get what youâre saying. But whether they are black, blue or gray, just try to make friendships which leads me toâŠâŠ. You seem to have this assumption that you will make close friendships at college. You state you have 1-3 closer friends. You are probably doing better then most. In college, friendships seem to be more aquitances more then true friendships. My example is you get along great with someone at some club or event but never go out for pizza or do stuff on the weekends but you have a great time eveytime you see each other in that club. Itâs very confusing but this is very common. Sometimes you have to meet people where they are.
I only say this since it probably wonât be much different on any college campus. Lots of colleges really donât have much diversity. Yours does but just not the correct type for you. How will this change at your next college choice?
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If you read my comment I mentioned that I do it at home, not in my dorm and donât do it frequently. And with my family member or friends. Read comments before commenting on someones post. Also good for you, but assuming your older, times have changed since you have been in school.
I did not choose to go here, my parents did because it is the cheapest and they are paying my tuition.
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Lol when did I ever say these are requirements, just things that Iâve notice at this school that I donât like. Yâall kill me with your assumptions.
Times may have changed but he biology of Cannabis has not.
Perhaps a more âsocially engagingâ activity- outdoors, with other people, less solitary and modestly paranoia inducing will help you âdislikeâ your university less.
Volunteering, tutoring, organizing an eventâŠ.
Many of us grew up in the 1970âs⊠donât be so quick to dismiss our experiences. We saw more marijuana in a week than youâll see all year.
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Reminder that this forum is supposed to welcoming and friendly. Name calling is not permitted.
This is important.
Is one of the transfer options less expensive? If so, would they willing to fund that school? Would they fund a pricier one?
In the end, many donât love college but they grin and bear it. Itâs a short part of your life. Get through and move on.
Obviously itâs best to be happy. It could be you need to give it more time. It could be that you never wanted to be there and youâve sort of were destined to not like it. It could be that itâs not the right place for you.
Budget is always a factor. If you tho k you want to leave, talk to your folks and figure out the financial limitations and go from there.
You work and go to gym so it seems like you are plenty busy. So Iâm not sure if changing schools will change your outlook. Interpersonal challenges are at every school, not just yours.
Good luck
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Last time I looked, the subject line asked for our thoughts. Oh, youâre welcome 
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