<p>I am about to be a freshman in a month and I don’t even want to go to college. I’m not scared or anything, it just seems so “blah” to me. Unless someone brings it up, I barely think about it and I am seriously not excited at all. This is strange to me because I see other people who will be going to Rutgers, and they are so excited an won’t shut up about it.</p>
<p>I love my house and I love my room. I also love my dog and my personal space. College will take that all away from me. It’s not like these are the reasons that I’m not excited, it’s just stuff i’m thinking of right now that gets me even less excited. Also, I don’t want to work really hard right now. After busting my a** for the past four years in high school, i’m nooooooooooooot looking to be writing 10 page papers anytime soon. Also, the whole party culture isn’t really my thing. Whenever I drink I feel horrible the next day, and I feel like I’ll probably just drink when I’m out because it’s the norm. I also have no desire to meet any new friends. ( I sound like a complete freak). </p>
<p>I also DO NOT want to go to my local community college because I’m certain that doing that will throw me into a bad depression. The thing is, is that besides Rutgers it’s not like I have an idea of what exactly I want. As of right now, I’m sick of my part time summer job and I wouldn’t want to stay home all day for a semester or something if I didn’t go. The whole idea of not going to college is so degrading for me as well.</p>
<p>Hardship is mandatory in life for you to grow as a responsible and valuable member of the society, so you can’t try to avoid every difficulty you come across. Talk to your parents to make your decision.</p>
<p>“In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double. Don’t worry, be happy.” - Bobby McFerrin</p>
<p>Don’t make a decision before you try the college life. Think of college as the road that will help you lead a better life. Without a college degree, you will have to work twice as hard to make it in the real world. Think of it this way…You will go to school for 16 weeks, get 5 week break and another 16 weeks and BAM, you are done with one year. You can go home on the weekends, holidays and summer breaks to spend in your room and wit your family and dog. Don’t let these reasons hold you back from a great future. My husband never went to college and he has to work twice as hard as(twice as long also) I do to earn the same money b/c I have a college degree. Talk to your parents, friends, siblings, former teachers, but for heavens sake to drop out before you try it. You might actually enjoy it. Good luck!!</p>
<p>I think your response is not uncommon. While you say you are not scared, I think inside you probably are a bit nervous which is why you are focusing on how you like things the way they are in your life.</p>
<p>College is about getting out of your comfort zone. Taking some risks which are pretty safe overall in a college environment. Meeting new people. Expanding your mind with knowledge and hopefully finding a passion in an area of study so that you choose that as your major.</p>
<p>i would talk to your parents about it because you don’t want to take loans out and quit school later. I know one student who did two years and accumalated 10k in loans and doesn’t want to go to school anymore which is a disaster.</p>
<p>Without a degree, it will be almost impossible to find a good paying job. I would recommend you dorm on campus and see the experience. </p>
<p>Every upperclassmen including myself will tell you that freshman year was the best experience they had in college. </p>
<p>If you don’t like it, you can always go home on the weekends and then commute the following year.</p>
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<li><p>Do you want to be one of those guys about whom everyone says, “Well, he was smart, but his laziness put him here,” as they pass you, homeless (and totally capable…), on the street?</p></li>
<li><p>Do you want your overall philosophy to run counter to the American Way? That is: Hard work, risk-taking and personal responsibility lead to personal success. Do you want to be seen as the smart kid who became a failure in an economically free, and likely inferior to you intellectually, culture?</p></li>
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<p>Get off your as* and work. Nobody lives without stress of some kind, so what makes you think you are exempt from it?</p>
<p>You can do it, but it’s up to you: nobody will do the work for you.</p>
<p>You’re thinking more about the negatives rather than the positives. Yes, you’ll leave everything behind, but you’ll have a bright future in front of you. EVERYTHING in life is hard work after high school; not going to college would make it even harder. Just try to enjoy it.</p>
<p>You will probably like it more than you expect. Kids I know who hated high school liked college. You will be much more independent and in charge of your own life vs people in high school telling you what to do all the time. And if you really do hate it, you can decide what to do at that point.</p>
<p>To make you feel much better, I hated high school because of all the extensive red tape I had to deal with at my school and all the one dimensional people that didn’t really care about learning. I took a few classes this summer at a college in Atlanta so I can transfer the credits off to Rutgers and I really enjoyed them. I loved all the independence that I had and how everyone seemed to be much more mature and eager to learn than people I knew from high school. Now I can’t wait until I start my freshman year at RU, especially since I want to get some of my cartoons published into The Daily Targum if possible.</p>
<p>I’m not sure if this is anything you’ve ever done but you might want to consider seeking out a psychologist or a psychiatrist. You could have mild depression or anxiety, but even if you don’t it wouldn’t hurt to go talk and get professional advice because you seem to be stuck in a rut (no pun intended). As far as the drinking thing, you won’t ever be forced to drink a certain amount… a lot of people go out and have only 1 or 2 beers and just enjoy themselves without getting trashed.</p>
<p>One option would be to go to community college part-time, until your goals become more settled. You shouldn’t be going to Rutgers if you don’t intend to work very hard. You will flunk out and waste your parents’ hard earned money. But you shouldn’t completely blow off your education either. </p>
<p>But you sound like you don’t want to be employed either.</p>
<p>So given all that, I agree that you should probably talk to someone, because your post is so negative.</p>
<p>You might want to think about the fact that there are millions of kids in the world who would die to go to a good university like Rutgers, and look at the glass half full, not half empty.</p>
<p>You have the opportunity to study whatever subjects you like, and will be around lots of attractive girls. That’s not bad. And certainly better than sitting in the house all day with your dog. </p>
<p>The fact that you are rather anti-social now does not mean that you will always be like that.</p>
<p>But don’t go to Rutgers unless you intend to work hard. That is not fair to your parents.</p>
<p>but I went because my family moved me, right after high school, to the boondocks and there was no one there, so at least college was something to do. I hated hated hated high school. It was boring and uninspired and pointless and the teachers were lame. I had friends and all, but I still hated it. I think I had a C average.</p>
<p>You probably already guessed, I loved college. The professors love their specialities and teach with enthusiasm. They teach you how things fit together and they don’t sugar coat things. You’ll learn what really happened during a war, see naked models in art class, read politically incorrect literature, much of it hysterically funny, and finally understand things like the binary system and electromagnetic radiation. I got so engrossed, I got all As the first several semesters (taking just general requirements). And the dorms felt a little-bit safe and a little-bit freeing. Not that every teacher was perfect, but it was interesting. Of course, eventually I ran out of general requirements and had to get serious about a major and being able to support myself. Ended up with a PhD (in a subject that I had gotten a 60% in in high school), and a fascinating well-paying career.</p>
<p>You sound smart to me. Don’t punish your future by trying to prolong your past. Do you want to leave home eventually? Most people agree college is the cushiest way to do it. Why not start with the easiest courses, plan on visiting home regularly, take as much of your stuff as you can with you, especially pictures of your dog, see if you can find a roommate who’s rarely around so you get some space, and see if you actually like college? Not because of the beer drinkers, but because at Rutgers you will have limitless choices on what you make of it. You can always quit later. You can chose to transfer to a local college later. You can chose to work at 7-11 later. But you’ll never be at exactly this apex again in your life.</p>