Talk to about what? My depression? My family? I don’t really care about that. I just want to know what to do to get my life on track as I don’t know what to do right now.
Talk about how to get your life back on track.
In order to get it back on track, you’ll have to address your depression.
If the depression is heightened by either family or surroundings, you’ll need to find a way out.
A boarding school may be a solution but you need solid grades for that. So focus on your grades,
make yourself study by thinking they’ll help you out. If you can’t, if you can’t find any motivation,
then it means your depression needs to be treated first.
Honestly, I don’t know how anyone can help you if you’re not motivated to do anything. What do you want? What do you want us to do? Find a cure for your laziness? If you want to get back on track you have to be motivated for yourself. All I can say is to write down realistic goals and write down how you can realistically get there. First, by finishing this semester with the best possible grades. Also if you hate your school so much why not transfer? I’m not trying to be mean but you’re not going to get anywhere by throwing yourself a pity party and saying you can’t accomplish anything.
@cookiesandcreme Thing is, depression often manifests as “laziness” – loss of interest, inability to focus, intense exhaustion, lack of motivation. It would be a shame to write off possibls mental illness as “stop throwing yourself a pity party,” no?
@Cookiesandcreme I think you’re being very ignorant about mental illness. One of my friends started thinking this way last year and I immediately told a counselor. He never felt he was good enough which was made worse by the fact that he was a pastor’s son and eldest child in a conservative Korean household. I didn’t want to lose any other peers to suicide and what the OP wrote is a cry for help.
@Carto738 I really recommend seeing a therapist. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your parents yet, check if there is a student intervention specialist /crisis counselor at your school. Even a regular counselor will make sure that you are able to get help.
Whatever. I guess this is the wrong place to simply ask what I should do. Thanks for the help, though.
I’m sorry you’re not getting the answers you want, OP, but your question was long, vague, and complicated, ending with “I don’t know what to do.” Well…the simple answer is to excel in school through any means necessary so that you can go to the colleges you like. But you said yourself that the depression is standing in your way, so “Just do it” becomes less-than-useful advice.
Plus MYOS gave you a ton of info.
@Hamlon I also have friends that suffered from depression. I suffer from it also and anxiety so I don’t think I’m being ignorant. It’s hard to convey emotions through a computer screen. But honestly, happiness is a choice that a person has to make. I looked at my life and asked myself if I wanted to be happy and go out and accomplish things or close myself off and be sad, and I chose happiness. Of course my depression doesn’t just go away but the thing is that it’s all a choice. The OP can choose whatever he wants to do or be. And sometimes people don’t realize that they are throwing themselves a pity party and need someone to tell them. Also, not everyone can go and get help because a lot of parents don’t understand. How did your friends parents handle it? I know that Korean society is not the most open when it comes to mental illness.
@bodangles I know that it does because I went through it and I guess I worded things wring. But I firmly believe that a person’s happiness is a choice. I used to be the same way for a year and I just couldn’t do anything because I felt tired and lazy. But I made the choice to be happy and proactive in my life. I still have moments of depression and anxiety but it’s a lot better now