<p>I don’t fit in with anyone here. What should I do? I’m too weird I guess.</p>
<p>I don’t know what to say about myself. I’m interested in philosophy and meeting girls. I am an electrical engineering major, however. I don’t even know why I chose electrical engineering. I would have chosen something in the humanities, but I was looking for an excuse to hide from people and I was worried about finding a good job.</p>
<p>EDIT: I now remember that in high school, I had bad luck with humanities classes anyway because the teachers claimed to be openminded, but would mark down harshly if I didn’t bow down to their views.</p>
<p>The areas of philosophy I am interested in are extremely controversial, and I have received vicious threats for even daring to talk about them.</p>
<p>What made you decide to go to Berkeley? How did you fit in at high school?</p>
<p>Figure out how to make friends. Are you living in a dorm and interacting?</p>
<p>It just seemed like a great place to go to. In high school, I hung out with the stoners. They were fun to hang out with!! 
But they had no future and my parents forced me to go to a good college. </p>
<p>I live in an apartment and don’t interact with anyone. My apartment floor does nothing together. I’m too tired from EE classes to do anything else, and I don’t even know if there is a philosophy club. I would have joined a fraternity because it’s a good opportunity to meet girls that way, but it’s too late now.</p>
<p>Wow, lots going on in that post. Are you trying to figure out your major, try to make friends, or really just looking for girls? Those are pretty different issues.</p>
<p>If you’re really regretting EE, take some philosophy classes or whatever to see if you really love it. If you end up staying EECS, you can pass them off as electives or H/SS. If you fall in love with something else, you can change to L&S and change your major. But before you do anything drastic, make sure you’ll actually be happier after swapping… getting back into CoE is harder than getting out. You could also minor in some sort of humanities, if you’re concerned about jobs and having a “useful” major.</p>
<p>Fitting in/friends: Have you tried to meet people? You know, stick your head outside of Cory, say hi, go looking for clubs to join? What are your interests? Have you tried to find places/groups you fit in with? You also say that you picked EE as “an excuse to hide from people”… which is it, do you want to meet people or not? You’re sending conflicting messages, if you’re trying to hide from people of course you’ll be alone…</p>
<p>Girls: Yeah… not too many of those in engineering. But your major really shouldn’t matter here. You’re allowed to talk to people outside of EE, you know. That said, as a girl I don’t go look for girls often, soo… not much help on this one. But try looking outside of your tech classes for those. :P</p>
<p>I don’t want to switch out because a lot of people in my family are in STEM and they also strongly encouraged it. Also, they made me minor in math. I’m in my third year, and don’t want to change at this time.</p>
<p>Like I said, I’m interested in philosophy, but I can’t find a philosophy club, and the topics that I’m interested in are highly controversial anyway. It’s probably too late to join a frat. I have no clue what else to join.</p>
<p>“You also say that you picked EE as “an excuse to hide from people””
I guess I want to meet people, but I’m too afraid.</p>
<p>Your username seems to match your situation.
All I can say is, Berkeley is a huge school so I’m sure there’s a ton of student organizations you could try to join.
I’m sure you could’ve figured that out though…I mean you did get into Berkeley</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure you can find a lot of stoners at Berkeley. </p>
<p>None of the hundreds of other students in your CS courses happens to be anyone you are willing to hang out with?</p>
<p>My H is an engineer and didn’t start dating till sophomore year in college. I was the 3rd girl he dated. He had to force himself to start getting out. He would still consider himself an introvert in some social situations. He functions fine at work.</p>
<p>There are many girls that probably feel a bit like you do. Some extrovert girls might be easier to meet and maybe would be more of a match for you.</p>
<p>Start hanging out where other students hang out. Any group study opportunities? </p>
<p>Do you smile, talk to people?</p>
<p>Try to look for social type of interactions. Are there sororities that put on a function/fundraiser?</p>
<p>Is it too late to join a fraternity? Frat brothers will try to create a social climate, and maybe a frat have ‘little sisters’ at a sorority.</p>
<p>Keep posting what has tried and worked! Good luck. Remember nothing ventured nothing gained.</p>
<p>hey I agree ewith SOSConcern definitely join a frat that gives you instant friends and a social life. If it’s too late this year you can still join next year right? best of luck to you :)</p>
<p>There’s just so much we don’t know about you that it’s hard to help. For example, are you on work study so your time is really limited? And who made vicious threats for you talking about your interest in philosophy? And what happened to the people you hung around with freshman and sophomore year? We really can’t solve this entirely.</p>
<p>But given what I do know, I think you should get out of your apartment sooner than rush next fall. So I’ll throw a few arrows out–and maybe one of them will strike a target. Have you ever considered taking a non-credit art class on campus? Try something new–and bonus, there may be girls there too. Are you interested in music? Berkeley has a great department and concerts are likely happening frequently. Is there a film club where people talk about film? What about Code for Change, an opportunity to help others with your EECS skillset? Berkeley has a group called Alternative Breaks. I’ve heard about this sort of thing elsewhere, and I think it’s where you do a service project as a group over spring break. </p>
<p>Finally, while it may be too late to change your major, squeeze in some classes that interest you before you graduate!</p>
<p>Sounds like you’re not exactly a mainstream sort of person, so I’m guessing you probably wouldn’t have fit into a frat anyway. </p>
<p>What you need to do is try new things. Anything. Over 1000 clubs at Berkeley, if you haven’t tried any yet, then you’re not really looking. And I understand that it’s hard to get out of one’s comfort zone, but sitting in your apartment isn’t going to help much.</p>
<p>PS So was I, but got over it by… being a waiter while working through college. had no choice but to socialize.</p>