This is going to be a thread about a stupid first world problem so I apologise in advance.
For some reason I feel extremely spoiled because I will go to one of the most expensive universities in the world and my parents will pay for all of my tuition. I didn’t win any scholarships and I’ve told my parents that it would be a lot easier if I went to a university that was cheaper but they insisted that I go to this school.
I feel like I am not worthy of all of this money. It seems like a huge waste, to be honest. When I think about the ridiculous price of universities in the US, I get worries about the fact that I will not be able to repay my parents. I think about how much would be expected from me once I graduate this university since it is so expensive and what if I don’t fulfil these expectations?
Think of the reverse…you really want this private U but your parents can only afford East State College and you insiste and whine and shout. That is being spoiled.
Your parents deciding that this University is something that is worth the price…because of education, connections, opportunities, reputation…and you going and doing the best you can? That is not spoiled.
My Dad paid for a private school for me…I thought my obligation was to go and do the best job I could! WHich I did…and when I grew up, I paid for college for my kids.
Your payback to them will not be financial, most likely, but succeeding at the college doing well, and helping your kids pay for their college.
Yes, work hard and make your parents proud! And take it from a mom - if you were to send them a thank you note by snail mail, it would mean the world to them.
Sometimes I feel spoiled, even at age 55, because my parents still do nice things for us. In June, they’re taking DH and me to South Africa again - it will be my fifth trip there with them. But my dad has done well and enjoys spoiling us, so I guess I’ll just have to take it, ha.
Spoiled people don’t worry about the impact on others, you are worried about your parents, the likely sign of a grateful child. It’s not about whether or not you are worthy. It’s about what your parents value and that they are willing to pay for what they value. They want the best for you. The fact that they can afford an expensive school is good fortune for you. Do your best, send your parents that thank you card mentioned above and call them at least once a week. They are going to miss you. Continue to appreciate them.
I second the thank you note in the mail idea!
It likely makes your parents happy and proud to send you there. Most parents feel there is no better way to spend money than on kids’ education.
You would be spoiled if you didnt recognize what a terrific gift that is and proceeded to grow it away partying four nights a week or staying inside your room talking with no one. I assume that’s not your plan so make the best of the opportunity afforded to you.
In life, it’s better to practice gratitude than guilt. It sounds like you have a great foundation and opportunity.
Parents want the best for their kids. Take their gift knowing it was given with love, not an expectation of payback. Their wishes for you are not transactional.