<p>Join the Army.</p>
<p>Loserman believes he’s a mystic with all the answers …</p>
<p>"You deserved it loser, many ppl even want to step foot into standford "</p>
<p>You are right. (assuming this whole post is even true). He might have made it up… note his join date and number of posts</p>
<p>“getbetter, ignore the flame posts, and even the posts telling you you’re depressed.” </p>
<p>If you want to ignore the opinion by other posters that you are depressed, go right ahead. But absolutely do NOT ignore their advice to seek professional help. You seem to want to sabotage your life right now and you need to find out why you’re on this self-destructive track. Good luck.</p>
<p>I agree with many of the posters - you sound like you’re having some serious mental issues. Perhaps it isn’t depression - but it sure sounds like it, or at least some form of it. Seriously - just talking to someone when you get back home might help.</p>
<p>Telling your parents will probably be rough, no doubts about it. But if you explain to them that you’re having a really hard time, and that mentally, psychologically, etc. you seem to be having a bit of a breakdown, they might be more understanding than you think. perhaps they won’t be thrilled, but hopefully they will support you.</p>
<p>Honestly - you are clearly not a failure. You obviously worked hard in high school, and you were able to gain acceptance to a fabulous school. Perhaps you could take a year off, do some thinking about your life, and then decide to either transfer or give it another shot? Sometimes people just don’t “click” with the athmosphere or the people at a college. CHanging your environment could make a world of a difference.</p>
<p>getbetter202, I’m sorry this is happening. Stanford could be giving you a gift and you may be able to see that if you can step back from the feeling of defeat that the situation produces. The fact that you got into Stanford shows that you have plenty on the ball. I do believe that depression is a very real debilitating condition, but I also agree, kinda, with loserman. If you’re trying to force yourself into social situations that don’t feel comfortable, or classes that hold no spark for you, it can be soul deadening. Then the downward spiral continues and gets harder and harder to combat. You need a change of pace, a good counselor, a nice menial job that provides enough time for you to discover, maybe for the first time, what excites you. We are not machines. I’ve talked to too many sad people who have not taken the time to find out what really interests them.</p>
<p>Yes, parents can be scary, and disappointing them is awful, but most parents I know want to help their kids. They don’t want you to be miserable. I wish you the very best of luck. This can turn into a life changing event, for the better!</p>
<p>getbetter: life is long so don’t get down if things are not good right now. Stanford has the best mental health resources in the country available to undergrads so have a phone call or a visit with those folks.</p>
<p>and look at this year off as an opportunity to do something you would never probably do. once you graduate and start a career opportunities of time like this are few.</p>
<p>also, consider a sport if you don’t already have one. and when you get back to stanford join that intramural sport club and you’ll have a “group”. then all you need to do on campus next year is find one friend, most people are lucky to have one good friend.</p>
<p>1) gap year opportunity: work at a fun job, like giving tours at the smithsonian
2) get your sport
3) talk to Stanford undergrad mental health staff
4) join your intramural sport next year
5) find that one friend</p>
<p>your school work will go find once you’re feeling more positive, and a profession will find you in time.</p>
<p>life is long!</p>
<p>btw: do you start back in september or next january?</p>