I’m a freshman at my local community college, and two months after school started, I hate it. It wasn’t what I excepted. It’s so boring, I hate all my classes, and I still haven’t made one new friend. According to my school schedule, It’s considered part time, so I’m in school three days a week this semester. When I was in 10th grade, I didn’t want to go to a community college but people I know were saying good things about it so I took their advice . I’m transferring to a state university after spending two years at CC. All i do is go to school, home, part time job, home, and repeat. I’m very lonely in school, I hate eating lunch by myself in the cafeteria, most of the time I see three people eating by themselves with their phone but I don’t want to walk up to a table and sit with a random person. no one my age wants to talk or befriend me, and I hate starting a conversation because I feel annoying and the person don’t want to talk to me. Anyway a few of my friends from high school goes to the same college but we all have different schedules. I understand after high school, people go there separate ways but I miss hanging out with the same people at the same time.At oriantation, there were a lot of HS graduates, I was like “look how many students will be attending, community college won’t be so bad” but when school started I don’t know who is in the same grade as me. I was actually looking forward to college. My classmates don’t socialize with anyone, one person will whisper to the person next to him. If we’re waiting for the teacher, everyone is on their cell phone. I tried joining a club but I didn’t see anything interesting. I was hoping community college would be more fun than high school but I want to go back when though it was SO annoying (waking up at 5:30, taking exams every end of semesters, fights in hallways/cafeteria) I feel ashamed for not getting a good gpa (In 12th grade I went from a 2.3 to 2.4 GPA, that’s a 79% aka C+) I really wish I live on campus so I can have the fun college experience without drinking/drug/sex. I walk/sit/eat/do homework alone pretty much every action I do in school is done alone. I was so wrong about CC. I feel like a friendless loser. How can I enjoy community college before transferring.
All I can say is don’t give up, keep putting yourself out there. This was me for the first year, now I’m in my 3rd sem and I’ve found at least one person I connect with in each class. Especially in classes I excel in like biology, classmates always come to me for help during lab and I also coordinate study groups. After each sem we usually go our separate ways, but that’s to be expected. Do the best you can to transfer on time and then find friends in your major where people will be more open to real friendship since you know you’ll be together for at least 2 years. That’s just the reality of community college vs university, a lot less socially integrated…
What exactly were you expecting? I rarely meet people who assume community college is more than it really is, unless they watch that show “community”
You no longer only associate with people who are in your “grade” (there is no such thing in college btw) because you are an adult. Trust me, living on campus of a community college will not increase your experience with drinking/drugs/sex because the only thing on people’s minds at a community college is getting out and transferring to a university.
OP, based on what you have written, you wouldn’t exceed well socially at a 4-year university as well. People will still be on their phones during a class at a 4-year university. Maybe the clubs at a 4-year university can help you if you can find people who have similar interests as you over there. I do agree that some people at community college are just there to just get their wok done and leave/transfer once they are finished. Based on “I’m very lonely in school, I hate eating lunch by myself in the cafeteria, most of the time I see three people eating by themselves with their phone but I don’t want to walk up to a table and sit with a random person” and “and I hate starting a conversation because I feel annoying and the person don’t want to talk to me,” don’t expect people will come to you as they may have the same mentality as you. It is completely normal to strike up a conversation as long you are being mindful of what you are saying, during what time you are saying this, and the environment. I think you have a hard time talking to people in general. You will eventually have to learn how to approach people. I am not just talking about at your community college or a 4-year university. I am talking about pretty much anywhere else as having effective communication and people skills are essential if you want to do well in terms of communicating with someone. Don’t let the fear of you thinking about screwing up ruined you or else you may miss these opportunities. Every opportunity is a chance worth taking if you can see something good out of it.