<p>yesterday, my roommate had friends from his town come over to visit him. They couldn’t find anything to do so at the end they decide to watch movies in our room. I was very nice to his friends and had some cool coversation with them. I could even totally be friend with one of them. They first watched a movie from 12 to 2am, I was ok with that and posponed my bed time until after 2am. Then they picked another movie, 40 years old virgin. I was already really tired and I don’t wanna disrupt my semi-health schedule that I have tried so hard to keep up since this semester started so I went to bed when they started the second movie. Well, they had no regard for me at all. They played the movie pretty loud and laughed pretty loud while I was struggling to fall asleep on my bed. I couldn’t sleep until they were gone by 4:20am. They closed the window which I cracked before I went to bed since otherwise the room would be steaming for someone in the bed. that I don’t really blame, since I probably would do the same if i know the person has fallen sleep already. I mean, yes it’s not easy for his friends all the way from his hometown (which is an 1hr away btw) to come over here and have a good time with him once a in while. But shouldn’t they know that I have no where else to sleep except in this room. Is it reasonable for my roommate to expect that I should stay up too and sacrifice my shedule so he and his buddies could have a good time?
So what do ya think? Am I being selfish? or my rooomate was totally being an assshole there?</p>
<p>What he did was inconsiderate, but if this is the only time he’s done it…yeah…you really shouldn’t hate him or anything. Just calm down. There are worse things he could have been up doing until 4:20 am with you in the room.</p>
<p>Question: did you tell them that you were having trouble falling asleep? Because otherise they might have assumed you could sleep even though they were making noise.</p>
<p>OTOH, if they kept the noise up even after you asked them to be quite, that’s something of a problem, and you should talk to your roomate about it.</p>
<p>If this only happened the once I would say you are overreacting.</p>
<p>i understand. it would **** me off a lot actually. but i wouldnt HATE my roomate. i would just curse about it under my breath and move on. if it happened one or two more times. then i would prob cause a scene. cuz, that’s just really really inconsiderate, even if it only happened once.</p>
<p>alwaysfaithful–D was in a similar situation as you. Her roommate invited an out of state guest to stay with them for 4 days without even consulting with my D to see if it was okay. D bit her tongue as she did not want to look like the bad guy. She also knew, if she wanted, she could go to the RA, however, that would have made HER look bad, so that wasn’t an option. I might add that her room mates friend was of the opposite sex which p****d her off even more. However, she waited until after he left to have a conversation with her. I think her roommate appreciated this. Basically, D stated she would have appreciated it if she would have consulted her first before having him over. The nice thing was that they were out most of the time so my D had the place to herself. Also, the friend was very respectful of her space and privacy. </p>
<p>I don’t feel you are off base to feel the way you do; however, if you don’t want it to happen again, it would be wise to communicate with your room mate how you feel and give him some examples of what you felt was rude behaviour on their part. I’ll bet next time they will either be out of the room earlier, or much quieter. :)</p>
<p>Did you ask them to be quiet or to find another place to socialize? If not, then you can’t expect them to read your mind. There really are people who would have had no problem with what your roommate and friends did. Some people can sleep through anything.
If you didn’t speak up, it’s not fair for you to be angry at them for not knowing that they were disturbing you.</p>
<p>Umm…I think it’s pretty obvious a person can’t sleep through shouting. At least, /most/ people don’t appreciate it. I think it’s more likely they just forgot about you. You should have told them to be quiet. But chances are they would have kept “forgetting” about you. I would try and get over it, and mention to your roommate (in a friendly way) that’d you’d like to get to sleep earlier, haha. And next time people are shouting in your ear while you’re dozing, clue them in. </p>
<p>Don’t “hate” your roommate for this one little incident. Everybody makes mistakes.</p>
<p>I totally agree with Northstamom, next time say something.</p>
<p>I agree…you need to let your roommate know.
I’m a light sleeper, so I’ve certainly to deal with this with my roommates quite a few times over the past several years. Just make sure you let your roommate know when you can’t get to sleep and get their thoughts and work out a compromise.
I do agree that it was inconsiderate of them–especially if its a dorm room, so they’re making it noisy and introducing additional light into your rm while you attempt to sleep, but it’s also true that some people can fall asleep through almost anything–hence the importance of communication!</p>
<p>Earplugs work wonders too. :)</p>
<p>yes, they do…until you miss the alarm because your roommate was louder than your alarm so you got too good of earplugs! lol</p>
<p>this is why my mom said she is going to buy me a pair of Bose noise-cancelling headphones (they REALLY do work) when I head off to college…</p>
<p>I’m glad I sleep like a rock and don’t get nearly as riled up about these kinds of things as you guys do (unless they happen often). That and I can fall asleep pretty much anywhere.</p>
<p>He did something semi-inconsiderate, but it was just one thing. Also, yesterday was friday, so you shoulda watched movies with them.</p>
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I own a pair of these. They are great on an airplane because they cancel out rumbles and other low-frequency noise. However they do not cancel out all sound, especially mid-range and high-freq sounds such as speech or music.</p>
<p>Why didnt u tell ur roommate u wanna go sleep & let them be quite?</p>
<p>They would understand it if u told them u got a schedule</p>
<p>Was this a friday night? If so, shame on you!</p>
<p>bro, ur a ****ing loser…my god…who goes to sleep on a friday???..leemme guess, u have no friends???</p>