I hate my school, and i feel like it's too late to transfer

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hi, so i’m at a pretty decent school right now but i hate it here. i don’t feel lonely or anything and i have friends, but i just hate the culture and location here. there’s literally nothing to do here, so the only thing you can really do is party. i’m a huge introvert, and while i do like to party occasionally, it’s not something i see myself doing regularly. i also just don’t really feel comfortable here. i’m from a pretty asian populated place, so i’m incredibly homesick. i miss asian foods and people, and i get incredibly homesick.

for context, i’m from northern nj and i would go up to nyc a ton and really loved spending time in the city. i applied to transfer to a few schools last semester, but got rejected from all of them. i was really disappointed, and i had zero motivation to study or do anything. i’ve gotten the lowest grades i’ve ever had, and ended my freshman year with a 2.48 gpa.

this feeling has carried over to this semester, and my grades are still pretty abysmal. i don’t know why, but i’ve just had ZERO motivation to work hard. i’m realizing the trouble i’m in now, so i’m trying to study for these last couple of midterms i have and the finals to hopefully recover.

my question is: is it too late to recover and transfer? i’m so lost. i’m a computer engineering student that basically has no real projects and only in a few clubs as a minor member. i only applied to this school because my parents told me to during high school, and it was the best school i got into. i feel pressured to stay here because of my parents, i wish i said something about my feelings towards this school earlier. i wish i just worked a little big harder in high school so i could go to school in the city or even near home.

do i just have to thug it out for the rest of my college career and stay here? my school is pretty decent and i feel like i’m wasting my time and resources, but i’m just so miserable here.

any advice is appreciated, even if it’s brutally honest.

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OP- hugs.

Have you told your parents how you are feeling? That might help. Nobody wants their kid to be miserable.

Have you sought out the counseling center? Can you quickly sign up for tutoring so you can finish the current semester as strong as possible?

We don’t know why you were rejected as a transfer- but some schools take very few transfers, so it may not be personal, just “too many applicants for too few beds”. There is likely a college out there that will take you- warts and all- but we’d need to know more about you, what you are looking for, before we recommend a few of them.

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Are you okay budget-wise?

You could try and transfer to Fordham for CS or Manhattan University

SUNY Buffalo is an engineering powerhouse and they are still accepting applications (final deadline Dec1 but ASAP is better). They typically want a 2.5 GPA so you’d need to send your current grades (if they’re close to Bs) to bolster your application.
https://engineering.buffalo.edu/

You’d have to do a really good job on those last exams so get all the help you can - tutors in every subject, study/review session, counseling center (for moral support and make sure you hold on).
Go to office hours every week between now and the final. Bring your notes and questions (whenever you have a question during reading, p-sets, la , or lecture, jot it down and bring the question to office hours).
Do so in every subject. If you have class during some office hours, make an appointment.

I suppose you’ll be home for Thanksgiving break - try and talk to your parents. :hugs:
Most parents don’t want their kid to be miserable and any perceived benefit from a prestigious name doesn’t translate into anything if you don’t have a 3.0.
SUNY Buffalo may well be what you need for a fresh start, or it may be another university. :hugs:

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