<p>You don’t even have to tell them what you are doing but tell them that you are, in fact, still alive. I’d imagine a roommate filing you as a missing person would be infinitely more frustrating than a 2 minute phone call.</p>
<p>the only time the roomate needs to know what you’re doing is when there is a tie/sock on the doorknob…for obvious reasons of course</p>
<p>Assuming I hate my roomie again, I’m going to give my roomie a disclaimer this semester, just for you guys.</p>
<p>“Do not be worried if I am gone for an extended period of time. I’m either dead or having fun. Either way, it’s none of your business.”</p>
<p>Really, my roomies business is none of mine. Even if I am good friends with them. If they are missing for a week and people start coming to me, asking where they are, then I may get the slightest bit “worried”. Really, things happen everyday. A piano could drop on your head tomorrow as you are walking down the street. Telling someone ahead of time wont stop it from happening, now more people will know. I guess that’s the American way though right, make the biggest deal possible out of yourself.</p>
<p>Dude (hoke), you’re turning a minor issue into the end of the world or something.</p>
<p>Yes. Signs of the end are approaching via my interweb text. Put on your tinfoil hat, friend.</p>
<p>Eh, I don’t know. You turned a roommate into pianos dropping on heads. Will that tinfoil hat protect me from large falling instruments?</p>
<p>If you pop some steel and cushioning into it.</p>
<p>it is so refreshing to see such care for your fellow school mates…its so neat to see people who would wonder if someone disappeared for a week go: well, who the (*%# cares about anybody else…</p>
<p>wow, so if hokegoalie has a sibling who goes missing for two or three days, do what hokiegolaie would do…he would expect nothing more</p>
<p>Man, I’d hope that someone gave a crap if I disappeared for a few days! I’d tell my roommate if I wasn’t going to be spending the night in the dorm at least by smsing them or something.</p>
<p>Unless your roomate never talks to anyone, wouldn’t their friends know about it first if there was a reason to believe they were missing and send the cops to your room? If they don’t have other friends yet, then they’d probably never leave the room anyway.</p>
<p>Yeah, and I do care about strangers. I’m the kind of person that will stop if I see a car broken down on the side of the road. Or if someone drops a bunch of papers and pens in a crowded place, I’ll bend down and help pick them up - while everyone else completely ignores it. I hold the door open for people I don’t know. It’s easy to say “well, somebody else will worry about them”, but when you see how appreciative people are you realize a little kindness from strangers goes a long way…I think it’s sad how people have this mentality that just because you aren’t friends with someone, you can treat them like they don’t exist.</p>
<p>A sibling is different than a roommate, CGM.</p>
<p>I agree with MissSF. </p>
<p>That’s wrong with the world today; no one gives a crap about anyone but themselves.</p>
<p>I agree with MissSF. </p>
<p>That’s wrong with the world today; no one gives a crap about anyone but themselves.</p>
<p>I understand the points made by both CGM and Hokie. It comes down to knowing your roommate. If it’s established that the roomie typically will be gone a night or 3 occasionally, then it’s not a worry. If it’s atypical behavior though (i.e. being gone for a few days or a week without the laptop, cellphone, etc.), then there s/b concern and probably escalation to an RA or housing. </p>
<p>A very good idea for any roomies though, regardless of the mindset, would be to initially know each other’s cell number and email address (the one they frequently use which may not be their college one.) This way the roomie can contact the other if concerned rather than an RA. There aren’t a lot of college students who let much time elapse without checking the cell phone and email. This, along with informing a roomie if one will be gone for an unusually extended time, can be considered a business proposition which is what roommates basically are. If it’s established up front that the roomies want a hands-off approach (Hokie’s method), then so be it.</p>
<p>My roommate used to leave notes and stuff but now we just leave and say bye and that’s about it… i don’t give a crap where she goes and she doesn’t care where i go. the end.</p>
<p>Once again, we are not roommate’s parents or caretakers… it’s their responsibility to take care of themselves and hopefully not get themselves in stupid situations… but seriously if they are in some kinda trouble their friend’s will notice first and tell the roommate.</p>
<p>But i mean if somebody’s going to be gone for few days or so… it would be nice to inform the roommate. But if they weren’t nice enough to tell the roommate they were leaving for few days, i don’t think it’s the roommate’s responsibility to figure that out… everybody got their own business. (DIFFERENT if it’s an emergency but)</p>
<p>When i lived with my homestay people, i hated having curfews and telling them where i was going. i dunno… i mean i should, but I just really didn’t feel like telling ppl where i was going every single moment. I just like stepping out and taking a drive or taking a walk.</p>
<p>btw congrats on a bigger and cheaper single. haha cough</p>
<p>neverborn, let me clarify for you then:</p>
<p>if holkie’s sibling was in college and went missing for 3-4-5 days, what would hokie want that roommate to do? guess nothing</p>
<p>and this person is not a stranger this is someone your share space with</p>
<p>think about it this way for those who don’t care about their roommate…or common courtesy</p>
<p>let us say oyu went hiking, nothing major, but a nice run, say you fell and got hurt, say noone cared enough about you to say, hey, bob has been missing for 4 days…everyone just assumed you are okay…and your roommate didn’t give a rats a$$ if you were alive or dead</p>
<p>and to be honest, with friends and roommates like some of you, I am grateful there are more kind, caring and aware people in the world…</p>
<p>Uhm you first of all probably shouldn’t go hiking by yourself… (i know because my bro got lost on the rockies mountain because he went by himself)</p>
<p>You probably have a cell so you could call somebody in a situation like so.</p>
<p>if it’s for a nice run, it’s probably a place ppl could help that person out… and unless you are 5, you probably still can get back limping even if you fell down and got hurt.</p>
<p>The thing is, roommates PROBABLY SHOULD care about each other. The truth is, they don’t want to take care of each other like a parent and they don’t WANT the other person to ask them where they are going every moment they step out… that’s certainly me anyhow.</p>
<p>But certainly if they’ve been gone for several days without telling me, I would first tell my friends that my roommate’s gone missing and if they know anything about it… and spread the word i suppose. if they’ve been gone for around 4 days that’s when i’ll start to get worried. Other than that i wouldn’t really care. XP</p>