<p>“if holkie’s sibling was in college and went missing for 3-4-5 days, what would hokie want that roommate to do? guess nothing”</p>
<p>Bingo. It’s none of my sibling’s roommates business what my sibling chooses to do with his/her time.</p>
<p>^ LOL … sorry to say but same with me. I mean i don’t know what my bro does in his own time at his own college. He’s not that great with directions so not that surprising. We just hope he’s alive and calls every now and then… the end.</p>
<p>Yeah you should care about and help strangers, but I also agree that there’s a big difference between caring and interfering with someone else’s business. If for instance, your roomate is partying all the time and not studying, it’s not really your right to make them study more. Even if you tried,they won’t see it as being nice, but just resent you for it.</p>
<p>Eh. My roommate went missing for about two weeks. Turned out he went home.</p>
<p>Your roommate is not your kid.</p>
<p>maybe its just me and a few others but i would want someone to get worried if i was gone 3+ days. All is needed is a text saying “r u still alive” or sumthing like that and a simply reply of “yes” is all i need…no need to explain what/who your doing or anything like that. I dont consider that invasion of privacy or “parenting”. my roommates been gone overnight and so have I without telling each other but we see each other during the day so… </p>
<p>With my school, when they emailed us the roommmate assignment they gave us the roommmates school/personal email and their house number (but i wouldnt recommend calling the house since mom and pop wouldnt be to happy if it wasnt that big of an issue.)</p>
<p>i try to always tell my roomie where i’m going so they don’t worry. And i’d like the same. i realize they don’t have to, but i would consider it common courtesy.</p>
<p>The right thing to do is to let the RA know. If you are not into the right thing or do not agree, look at it this way: if something gruesome happened to him and it make the news, you are going to be going for the jerk of the year award.</p>
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<p>Why? Because you weren’t there to stop it? Seriously people. Think, live, do, independantly. If you are old enough to be in college, you are old enough to make choices that don’t need to be monitored around the clock.</p>
<p>I seriously want to know what this “common courtesy” garbage is. Are you looking for the common courtesy to sleep in your roommate’s bed, wear their clothes and use their soap, knowing they are gone for an extended period of time, without fear of them busting in on you wearing their shorts, juggling a bottle of their shampoo while jumping on their bed? The only thing that may involve “courtesy” involving a roommates actions is coming and going during normal sleeping hours. Like telling your roomie you will be out with friends until the early morning hours, so if they wake you, sorry.</p>
<p>I agree with many of this thread’s other posters- you are NOT the kid’s mom / dad. I mean, if you asked the RA where Missing Bob went, he’d probably be like- oh yeah Bob was at this frat partying hardy… etc.
Bob would come back, think that you’re in love with them to be paying so much attention, and you guys would have some homophobic tension for the next 30+ weeks.</p>
<p>Indeed, MYOB!! The cool kids are the ones that are independent and never worry. There’s a fire raging on Bob’s side of the room? Who am I to ask what it’s for? It might be some religous ritual… and I’m NOT his Mom. Bob’s fire is bob’s fire. He’ll prob be back in a few hours to explain it.
Bob’s having seizures… eh. He knows the medical office’s phone number; I’m not his Brokeback buddy, jeesh.</p>
<p>Where-T-F did Bob go??!!! He’s been gone for a week. Wait -wait- stop worrying. It’s not my business. Im cool, nonchalant; unsurprised about and unimpressed by every occurance- Bob will go his way, I will go mine. He’s not a kid anymore, we dont hafta pretend to give a dam bout im-
What’s that smell? (looks under bed). Bob? ■■■■… um… my bad Bob…</p>
<p>Edit: (sarcasm… shh…)</p>
<p>You are just not getting it. Bad things like murder and accidents really do happen to you oh so cool college kids. Do you not read the newspapers? It’s actually a very adult thing to let other people know that you are alive and okay and has nothing to do with controlling other people’s behavior. </p>
<p>Hey, cptofthehouse, I have a nominee for that jerk of the year award.</p>
<p>Bad things like murder and accidents happen to everyone.</p>
<p>I think you are the one who doesn’t get it. Even if your roommate were to get killed after he left you a memo telling you exactly where he was going and what he was doing and how long he would be there, how is that going to make him less dead?</p>
<p>Or she. I’m not changing all of that.</p>
<p>Hmm…I think there are a few schools of opinion here…</p>
<p>One is that it’s “common courtesy” to tell your roommate if you are going to be gone for awhile so that they don’t worry.</p>
<p>Another is that you tell your roommate where you are going in case you fall and hit your head and need them to call an ambulance.</p>
<p>And third, some people are advocating a combination of the two.</p>
<p>I think it’s really unlikely that you would be off and hurt somewhere, and even less likely that your roommate of all people would be able to do anything for you…but I’m with the first school of thought, still considering it polite to let somebody know where you are if you are gone for a long time, so they know that you aren’t lying dead somewhere.</p>
<p>Even if they’re not responsible for them, people still worry about other people, so it’s nice to save your roommate the trouble of worrying about you. I’m not saying the OP should call the police or whatever, but I am saying to alleviate his fears it’s ok if he asks around, and it would have been polite if the roommate had said, hey, I’m going to be MIA for half a week, don’t worry about it, though. </p>
<p>Not so that the roommate can go all Superman and rescue other roommate from impending doom should he not reappear on time, FYI. Like people already said, it’s not really for your benefit that you tell somebody where you are going…it’s for them. It’s human to be anxious, and you want to keep them from that. So that’s where the “common courtesy” part comes in.</p>
<p>Things like this <a href=“http://www.findmikenow.com/[/url]”>http://www.findmikenow.com/</a> are what worry parents like us. All that we’re asking is for people to look out for one another. The boy on the website disappeared from his dorm at UCLA in 1999. He has never been found. It is every parent’s worst nightmare.</p>
<p>haha this reminds of that episode of Felicity where in the beginning she doesnt even know that her roommate exists. haha.</p>
<p>I know that I would worry if my roommate was gone for one day. In fact, I’m currently kind of wondering where she is, since it’s 12:20, and she’s usually going to sleep by about now, though I wouldn’t do anything unless she wasn’t back by about 3am. </p>
<p>I think it’s a shame that some people don’t take the time to get to know their roommate - you’re living with them for a year, the least you could do is be civil and care at least a little about each other. If something happened to me, I would want to know that my roommate would notice within 24 hrs and do something about it.</p>
<p>I give up. I really do.</p>
<p>Honestly, I’d probably just be glad to have the room to myself. </p>
<p>I’ve never shared a room with anyone for any longer than a week, so I’m sure this will be an interesting year (I’m gonna try for a single next year). I’m moving in on Tuesday…finally.</p>
<p>good think someone gave up, can’t count on some people anyway</p>
<p>This story sounds bizarre</p>
<p>I’m glad that I’ve never lived in a community full of hokegoalies. Stop thinking in extremes. There’s a way to go about making sure the roommate is ok without going against the “American way.” Ask people in your hall. Ask your RA. Find out what classes he’s taking a peek your head in. If you still can’t find out where he is, then it’s time to bring in the big guns. And so what if it turns out everything was fine and your roommate gets ****ed at you? Better to err on that side than the alternative. And last I checked, this country wouldn’t have even been founded if people didn’t come together or at least cared about their community. You’ve completely taken American values to the extreme. If the roommate hates him, so what. You act as if it takes more maturity to NOT do anything, when quite the contrary, it takes more to do something. Unfortunately, even in college, there are some people who haven’t moved on from the “well, what will THEY think?” kind if mentality. Man laws must be your bible.</p>