A neighbor just mentioned that his kid came home after first semester and he is taking a gap semester because his he needs some orthodontic work. He’ll go back next year. It shouldn’t be of concern to me but just wondering why would one drop a semester, instead of waiting for summer or finding a dentist near school. If it was of importance then why not defer admission for spring or next year to begin with.
This is probably extensive dental work (maybe reconstructive surgery). I know someone whose kid had to have their jaw broken and realigned. Maybe they can’t get into the surgeon until late summer, or there is work to be done in stages. Generally agree with your title… it isn’t your business. Best to just be glad that your kid doesn’t have serious health issues.
Or maybe there are financial issues where they can’t afford both school and the dental work.
Either way, not your business.
Or “orthodontic work” is shorthand for more extensive jaw/sinus/ medical issues and the orthodontic part is the END, not the beginning.
No he has no health issues or in need of surgery, just needed new braces. I’m not trying to be insensitive to him. I have kids too and value their health and health of other kids too. Don’t be holier than thou. Just humanly curious.
If he came home after first semester, that was probably 5 mos ago. The procedures should be well under way.
It’s fine to be curious, but it just seems like an odd topic for an entire thread. There’s not much other users can tell you.
Maybe move the question here? http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1861505-random-questions.html That’s exactly what the thread is for-- random questions.
It’s not that easy starting orthodontics in one place and continuing in another. If he’ll need a lot of adjustments early on, more often than it would be reasonable to come back home each time, that might be why they’re doing it this way My son got braces while he was living with his dad, and we couldn’t even get anyone out here to even look at his braces without a ginormous up-front fee. It ended up being cheaper to fly him back to his dad’s for his final adjustment, and they were removed over one of his visits.
In any case-not your problem. I don’t even know why you care.
He has a full ride in a state school and anyways, they are quite affluent and have good insurance through his father’s work and no his father isn’t out of job. He is an executive in my brother’s company.
New braces are expensive – not covered by dental insurance. If it was an unexpected expense, maybe they couldn’t afford tuition and braces. Also, you probably don’t know everything about the kid’s health status – I sure don’t tell anyone (friends included) all the details of my kid’s health issues. Not sure why it matters if the neighbor’s kid takes an extra semester to graduate anyway… as long as it isn’t my kid, I don’t really care. Half a year or a full year in the big picture of life is irrelevant.
OK, @jym626, good idea - I moved the thread.
OP, if you ask questions and get polite answers, you can’t insult people by accusing them of being “holier than thou.” Don’t start a thread if you don’t want answers you don’t like.
Perhaps you suspect something nefarious? Would you welcome speculation about that if you were the parent? I wouldn’t if I were the kid’s parent.
I’m sorry for an impolite comment but i already mentioned that I’m curios hence the question though I know that I’m being nosy.
What you should NOT do is talk about this with others and speculate. That’s how rumors start.
If you know you are being noisy, you know you should mind your own business and you probably already know that it would probably be hurtful to seek the information, one has to wonder why you persist. Seems like persisting in the face of something that is potentially harmful to others is simply being cruel. Is that rewarding in some way for you?
I ask that because that might be something that we can wonder on here about-if that would be as interesting for you.
Do you feel more comfortable discussing this here because it’s an anonymous site? Would you feel comfortable discussing it further and speculating with the individual you are talking about? If not, probably best not to discuss it here either .
Here is a possibility for you. My youngest is a senior in high school and has a cross bite. We chose not to fix it on the advice of his dentist and orthodontist. In addition, he has a genetic anomaly where his first premolars on his lower jaw never erupted. They don’t exist. At 18, he still has those two pre-molar baby teeth. We have had to cap them and build them up so that the canine cuspids on the top have something to close on, so that they do not keep growing downward, which would eventually expose their roots.
Right now, the root systems are healthy and intact but we are told that they can begin to decay tomorrow or 20+ years from now. If and when they do, it will be quick. Since there is no adult tooth coming in, he will have to go through the process of having a post put in on both sides with a small temporary, THEN wear braces to enlarge the space and move his cross bite. This is an intensive process that takes time and a lot of visits. Then permanent posts will be put in. This could not be done if he were in another town away at college. It would be impossible to commute to have this done and it would have to be done as soon as those baby teeth roots rot.
If it happens while my son is at college, we may be faced with the same decision.
So, while you only know that he needs new braces, there may be more going on that they have elected not to clue you in on. Also, there may be something else going on and they do not want to reveal the real reasons to you, because as you said, it is none of your business and are just nosy. I would imagine they are clued in on that as well.
If you really want to know about this, ask the parents.
But really, you are right…it’s none of your business…and for the life of me, I can’t figure out why this matters to you…at all.
Why would you think anyone on this site could give you an answer? We know less about these people than you do. So the only answer we can give you is your guess is as a good as mine. I don’t know what you think they are up to but my advice is to stay out of it. It’s none of your business and you don’t want to make the wrong assumption and make an ass of yourself.