<p>Not sure if this article has appeared in another thread, but as a parent to a child who moved back home after graduation, I can relate. Written by a 22-year old “child”.</p>
<p>[Moving</a> Home After College Can Be a Good Thing - NYTimes.com](<a href=“http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/06/booming/moving-home-after-college-can-be-a-good-thing.html?_r=0]Moving”>http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/06/booming/moving-home-after-college-can-be-a-good-thing.html?_r=0)</p>
<p>After enjoying “empty nester”-hood for 1.5 years (sans dog/cat), DS moved back home during last semester of undergrad in January. Will stay with us until next August before going off to an out-of-town, TBD law school. DS is currently employed at the local public school district. Goes out Friday and Saturday nights with friends like a normal 22-year old. I stayed up late nights for the first month waiting for him to return, but have since adapted to more normal sleeping hours. Having a good relationship and making small adjustments has meant no serious problems so far… something the NYT article points out.</p>
<p>D1’s BF (age 23) is living at home with his parents. He actually has a great job. It is based in the city his parents (and D1) live in, but he is on the road a lot. It just didn’t seem to make sense for him to rent an apartment he would be vacating for all but a couple of weekends a month. He gets along great with his parents, and can save money for future grad school attendance. I don’t think any of them see any down side to it at all… his parents seem thrilled to have him, and he is happy to be there.</p>
<p>I would not tolerate my adult children just hanging around the house all day watching TV or posting on CC :). But as long as they are working or studying full time, or trying seriously to find a job, why should I mind if they are living with me?</p>
<p>My daughter graduated from college in 2011. We were all fortunate that (i) she got a great and well paying job and (ii) the job is one mile from our home is Los Angeles. (College was in the midwest.) For a variety of reasons, including the cost of safe housing in LA, the fact that none of her HS friends were back in LA, the desire to save money and the desire to be close to her new puppy, she moved home and has been living with us for about 15 months. It is not always easy, and there is certainly some “regression” on all of our parts, it is wonderful to have a third “adult” in the house. It is especially nice to see how different it is now than during the years immediately before she left for college. When things annoy her, there are times she claims she “just can’t live here”, and times we feel the same way, my hope is that, in time, she will leave not in anger but just because she is ready.</p>
<p>After college graduation (May '12), S2 moved back home to job hunt and begin his new adult life. He’s our youngest so we had grown accustommed to the empty nest in the past four years and have enjoyed it. He loved his university and hated to leave his friends who were staying for a fifth year. So this move came with a little trepidation. </p>
<p>So far, it has worked out. I try to think of him as a roommate rather than our “child”. I don’t wait up for him at night or plan our meals around his schedule,etc. </p>
<p>Luckily, S2 found a “real job” quickly. The job requires a lot of travel eight months of the year…we haven’t seen S2 in the last ten days. I think the travel prevents too much togetherness which is good. For now, living w/ us is his best option. His goal is to save $ for an apt. closer to his office (40 mile 'round trip commute fr. our house) and to buy furniture,etc. I anticipate him being with us another six months. We’re OK w/ that.</p>