<p>I would like your help on my situation. My mother died a couple of days ago. We knew this was coming for a long time, so it wasnt unexpected. Of course, we are all very sad, but we know that Mom doesnt have to suffer anymore. The only day the church was available for a rosary is this Saturday. The problem is that Saturday is the same day that my son is graduating from high school. Since the rosary is an hour after my sons graduation, I wouldnt be able to attend the full graduation. I have talked it over with my family and they said it would be more important to attend my sons full college graduation ceremony. I completely agree with them. I just was wondering what you would do in this situation. The funeral is on Sunday, so we wouldnt miss that. Thanks in advance for your replies.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t miss my son’s graduation ceremony. I’m sure your Mom would tell you the same.</p>
<p>Go to the graduation. Your mom will be there with you in your heart. You can attend for both of you. She will certainly understand why you are there and not at the church! Everyone else does.</p>
<p>For family events that my mom has to miss in person (she’s been gone now for five years) my sisters and I always wear pieces of her jewelry. Maybe you can carry your mom’s rosary to the graduation with you.</p>
<p>Wishing you all the best in these difficult days.</p>
<p>First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. </p>
<p>The important parts of graduation (unless your kid is giving a speech/performing/etc.) are seeing the graduates file in and your own child walk the stage. If you need to leave early everyone will understand and you’ll still have a visual memory. Someone else can take pictures after the ceremony and you can always buy the graduation DVD.</p>
<p>I am very sorry for your loss.</p>
<p>I think you said that your family favors the rosary, because it will be more important to attend your son’s college graduation rather than high school graduation. Am I understanding you correctly?</p>
<p>“I think you said that your family favors the rosary, because it will be more important to attend your son’s college graduation rather than high school graduation. Am I understanding you correctly?”</p>
<p>I meant high school graduation, not college graduation.</p>
<p>My family favors that I attend the full graduation. I shouldn’t get up and leave half way through.</p>
<p>Wow, what a horrible choice to have to make. Really puts it into perspective for those of us who had 2 kids graduate at the same time.
I know that for my F in law’s rosary it was a nice ceremony and a time to greet family as they assembled for the funeral but not the same as the real funeral service. Sister who was fetching kids from the airport was certainly excused, etc.
Your family sounds like they are on board with you going to the grad. Please give your son an extra hug from grandma, as I’m sure she would have wished.</p>
<p>It sounds like you are pretty sure of your decision. Do you feel at peace with it?</p>
<p>I am at peace with it. It looks like everyone agrees except for one person. Thanks for your replies.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry for your loss.
I don’t know your mom, but if she loved you and your child (I’m sure she did) she would want you to both be at the graduation the whole time. HS graduation only happens once and she will be with you while you are there. I’m sure your son would want you there, too. How would he feel if there was no one there right after the cerimony to celebrate with him from his family? I think you’ve made the right decision for you and your family :)</p>
<p>I wish you peace in all parts of your life at this very difficult time.</p>