<p>I think the five stages of grief apply to cc:</p>
<p>Denial: “I don’t believe any teen-agers are this engaged and have these kinds of grades!”</p>
<p>Anger: “Why is my child such a slacker???” </p>
<p>Bargaining: “I’ll do anything to raise my child’s score.”</p>
<p>Depression: “I can’t believe that I wasted thousands of dollars on test prep.”</p>
<p>Acceptance: “Some school somewhere will take him/her. I love my child just the way he/she is. I can’t believe how wound up I was about this whole process.”</p>
<p>Queen’s Mom, does your school have Naviance? Looking at the graphs, together with you or with her GC (or all of you), could help your D understand why every applicant needs at least one real safety on her list. And the GC him- or herself should be good at explaining that one, too.</p>
<p>My daughter’s GC is awful. She is also overworked and has too many kids to take care of. She doesn’t just do college, but all counseling. Since D is not a “problem” nor is she and academic superstar, mostly she just gets ignored.</p>
<p>They do have naviance, but I need to contact the GC to get an access number apparently and the woman does not return phone calls or emails. At this point I’ll have to try again in the fall.</p>
<p>S is accepted at a school that I think is perfect for him (and its no Ivy) and I’m still bouncing back and forth among those 5 stages. Poor D, just hitting 8th grade and I’m already trying to figure out how to apply lessons learned.</p>
<p>Woudl someone invent a CC blocker that I can invoke for a specified period (D would say about 6 years)? Or maybe just a way to block posts with SATs above xxxx?</p>
<p>Someone here – don’t remember who it was, and my apologies for not – had the idea of “mom’s choice.” The kid had to apply to a school that was Mom’s choice. I think I’d expand that to two, so that you can apply one or both of those schools to a safety, Queen’s Mom. After application, then the kid could research/visit Mom’s choice, and have a conversation with Mom about why Mom picked that school/those schools. </p>
<p>(We really ARE headed to the pool; leaving in a couple of minutes! Really!! H remembered the grapes I’d forgotten, but forgot the Cascade which I’d remembered, so ran back out for it. Not a clean bowl in the house at the moment, since we couldn’t run the dishwasher last night.)</p>
<p>Queen’s Mom, a bit of comfort: my D also had a few Cs – also only in honors, AP classes – and her ECs were kind of below-average until she went on a semester abroad program to Argentina, that was really her one big EC. But she still got into her #1 school, a good university, with a good grant. In other words – a few Cs will not mean your D is a deadbeat for life! She will find a school she likes and can attend. Honest.</p>
<p>(puts out the fresh strawberries and Bing cherries…and starts scooping the
Black Raspberry Chocolate Chip ice cream)</p>
<p>I’m happy to see all of you…I’ve got my son back for summer. Well, he is
house/dog/cat sitting this week. Maybe he can tutor Latin when that’s over.</p>
<p>Harriet, your story on the bright sayings thread was great.</p>
<p>Just back from the grocery store and the cherries and raspberries are WONDERFUL!!! Going to Happy Hour on the neighbors deck and then heading to the cabin for the weekend with NO KIDS!!! D1 went OOS to visit boyfriend and D2 has a tourney in Michigan. Ahhhh…relaxing on the boat with an adult beverage, smoked salmon and a good book. I will be in heaven!</p>
<p>The kids will find a place even if they have a C!!! I still freak out a little (in private) when I think of D2 wanting to play big soccer instead of going for the academic rigor. Just have to let it go!!! I know she will succeed wherever she goes and needs to follow her own path. (Can you tell that’s my new mantra!!! )</p>
<p>Yes, what are you reading, AND what are you drinking? </p>
<p>I was fine when D made “a chance of playing soccer” a main criterion for choosing her school. H was distinctly less fine - chiefly because it meant she wouldn’t even look at his alma mater (or any of the other seven schools in that league, if you follow my drift). Bear in mind, D was not the powerhouse player that your Ds are, NM. Still, she really wanted to play. </p>
<p>And she did. Her first year. Then she hung up her cleats. (For turf cleats - she plays just lax now at school.) </p>
<p>I think things will go differently for your D; just chiming in with another angle/perspective on letting them take that path!</p>
<p>FWIW, H fell in love with her school, and is now as certain as she is that it was the best choice for her, regardless of her reasons for putting it at the top of her list.</p>
<p>Thank goodness I finally stumbled over to this group. I just got back from a 4 day/3 college round of visits with my D and want to prepare for a bigger venture. It can be intimidating when most of what one reads is connected with highly driven, Ivy-bound kids who were president of everything in college. I know somebody has to rule the world someday, but there have be some nice, balanced folks to keep the rest of life going it seems. Heck, I’ve been too intimidated to even post up till now.</p>
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