<p>I try to join one of the largest fraternities on my campus which currently is being formed. Currently it does not have any official recruiting events, but you can join it anytime of the year. I contacted the President, then later the Recruiter about joining them. There is also another guy in fraternity who is supposed to help me get. Last time when we got into each other he told they will contact me to meet somewhere in a restaruant for “interview”. They did not. When I sent emails I got no response. I feel like I get only response when I run into them on campus. THere sems to be a lack of communication in my university and it was not first time. This even often happens on administrative level, but its little surprising that it also happens among students. Could that be because I am discriminated? Originally I am from Poland and speak foreign accent and go to the school in Chicago.
What should I do?</p>
<p>Join a different one?</p>
<p>is this a serious post?</p>
<p>which school in chicago do you go to?</p>
<p>I have tried already another. This is currently the different fraternity I am joining. I was previously joining another, that currently is being formed too. Had dinner with those guys times, and did other things with them, until I did not get bid and other got and I got this info from someone inside.</p>
<p>Just means they don’t think you’ll fit in with them…</p>
<p>How many are there on campus?</p>
<p>well if that’s the case then I’ll try to get references from the guys who like me who are their friends altough most of them are from another fraternities. Maybe if someone will speak on behalf me something will click. Its not like I have a bad reputation, I just probably do not have credentials.</p>
<p>It largely comes down to “fit.” Basically…the question is whether they think you would fit in with them. Sure, it IS a type of discrimination, but not necessarily anything illegal. My guess would be that since they only promise to help you when they run into you on campus but never bother to return phone calls or emails that they are probably simply not interested in having you in their fraternity. Frankly, I think for most people, if they are personally approached by someone applying and the person asked whether they would interview or recommend them, I think it would be difficult for most people to outright say, “No, we’re not interested, sorry.” The social norm is to be positive about it, even if that is, in reality, a form of deception. I’m sorry. I would go look for other frats that seem to have guys who are a lot like you.</p>
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<p>If you have friends who are in other frats who you believe like you, why not just try for their fraternities? I don’t know that a reference from a friend from another frat is going to do a whole lot of good, but good luck with it!</p>
<p>well if they don’t want you there, why don’t you try a sorority? 
LOL. It can happen that some people don’t reply to email or take some stuffs serious. So you better call your friend who is already in at 6 in the morning or go to the frat house at 5 AM , bang on their door. I am sure that they will give you an answer right away so they go back to bed</p>