I think I chose the wrong school!!!!

<p>My college starts in 20 days, but I am starting to have a LOT of second thoughts. I debated between this school and another for almost the entirety of last year, then finally picked one just before the May 1 deadline. Now, I am wishing I had picked the other school. I am much more familiar with it, and I know I will fit in there. At the school I am enrolled in, though, I know no one and I am starting to doubt whether I am right for it. It is an incredibly conservative Christian school, and, while I am Christian, I feel that it will be stifling and way too strict. The school I turned down, that I would like to go to now, is much more relaxed, yet still Christian. I have talked to my admissions counselor, and, believe it or not, he says I can still come this fall if I want to. So, my question is, do I switch? Or are these just last minute nerves, and I should just go with the original pick?</p>

<p>At first I was inclined to say last minute nerves...don't worry about not knowing anyone! Nobody will know anyone. It's cool.</p>

<p>Why did you choose this one over the other one to begin with? Maybe you just need to remind yourself. I'd make a list of pros and cons of each school, and then try and decide which one is the best fit for you. And you can leave off stuff like "I'm more familiar with it" or "I don't know anyone", b/c those /are/ just regular nerves. Academics, religious life...those are substancial things that warrant thinking about if you are having second thoughts.</p>

<p>I'd say pick the original one just because I'm not for uber conservative anything, but that's a personal bias...LOL.</p>

<p>i'd pick the original one b/c uber conservative, religious schools might not fly with some employers ... go with the more moderate one, especially if you're having doubts!</p>

<p>It's a really hard call that only you can make. I know that when I went to my first school, I was nervous right up until the day I went. And I transferred after one semester. That was a rough decision, I had to decide whether or not to stick it out or go, but in the end I went and I'm happier now where I am than I ever was at my old university. </p>

<p>I think in your heart you know where you need to go. If worse comes to worse, you stick with the old one and hate it, transfer. You'll know right away if it's the right place for you or not. I knew, I knew at orientation that it wouldn't work for me.</p>

<p>Best of luck to you in your decision :) I hope it all works out for the best!</p>

<p>Just try the school that you've enrolled in. Give it a chance. If you don't like it, then transfer.</p>

<p>Unless it's BJU...if it is run....far far away...</p>

<p>I'd like to mention on the conservative school issue</p>

<p>Some employers look toward conservative schools (if it's a strict Catholic school) due to the fact that the graduates are honest, never cheat off of work, and have strong work ethics.</p>

<p>I was looking through possible jobs offered at various schools when I read an employer's viewpoint upon the topic.</p>

<p>However - if the school is a school that discriminates upon minorities, hates people based on sexual preference, and is known for such acts, then that stigma may be also hard to escape upon hiring.</p>

<p>Of course, this is ultimately up to you. You should attend school and see how it is first. That is ultimately most important.</p>

<p>"Some employers look toward conservative schools (if it's a strict Catholic school) due to the fact that the graduates are honest, never cheat off of work, and have strong work ethics."</p>

<p>Oh my. If that isn't the biggest load of BS I've seen spewed in a while...</p>

<p>There is no positive (or negative) correlation between honesty, propensity to cheat, or work ethic and the more conservative schools. In fact the most egalitarian institutions out there are often known for there strong liberal faculty and student body e.g. Harvard, Yale, U Mass, UC Berkeley, NYU.</p>

<p>I guess making up facts and thinking irrationally doesn't count in your honesty assessment, because, clearly, everything in that paragraph is blatantly false.</p>

<p>"Unless it's BJU...if it is run....far far away..."</p>

<p>Bob Jones!!! Gotta love it. I went there for summer camp every year when I was growing up. Probably the reason I ended up super liberal.</p>

<p>Well Matt30, I didn't attend a religious university. </p>

<p>Those are near exact descriptions on why the actual employer chose BJU(Yes, it was this school) graduates.</p>

<p>This article was from the vault.com. I can remember it clearly - as it was a surprising outlook as I read it also.</p>

<p>I believe what we're mixing upon this is - this is in regards to a strict religious school. Perhaps the term conservative is where I should have clearly divided it.</p>

<p>What are the schools? j/w</p>

<p>Go where you think you'd feel most comfortable. Personally I'd be more comfortable at the less strict one, but I've gone to a strict, very conservative Christian school my whole life and really want to get away from the legalism. Seeing as you're a Christian, I suggest you seriously pray about it. This is not a light decision, whatever it ends up being.</p>

<p>Hmmm, totally know where you're coming from, I also have no idea if I made the best decision for myself, but all I can do is wait and see. I mean I stuck with my gut, and I happy overall, but hmmmm...</p>

<p>What made you chose the school yo uare supposed to attend in the first place?
Think about those things. There must be a reason why you are going there.</p>

<p>Besides, you can always transfer if you hate it. Just be sure to give it a real chance!</p>

<p>Like others have said, make a pro/con list for each school, compare both lists, and mark which cons will be the same at both schools. If it comes down to you just being scared to be alone in a different environment, stick with the school you're enrolled at currently (it was a close call between the other school for a reason). </p>

<p>Just don't go into it thinking you're going to hate it and be miserable...get excited about it and give whichever school you decide on a fair shot!</p>

<p>Hey, I'm feeling the same thing. I picked a school 3 hours away where I know no one instead of a school 1 hour away where all my friends are. The best thing anyone has told me is that it's always your choice to be at school. It just depends on how bad you want it.</p>

<p>I say give the school you chose in May a chance, mainly because switching at this late a date is a big headache for everyone involved. Try it for a semester, and if you still feel this way at Winter Break, at least you'll know you're really doing the right thing in transfering.</p>