I want to join clubs at school but im afraid that I wont make any friends. I really want to join clubs though because im always home a lot, especially on weekends. I just cant get rid of my fear of not fitting in with people and not making any friends.
I had this problem a little bit during my freshman year. The great thing about extracurriculars is that there is one for everyone. It will not be that hard to make friends at an extracurricular event if you and your peers around you share interests in the activity you are doing (for me, math). Another suggestion is to invite your friends to a meeting to be sure that you know people there.
Good luck.
What does it hurt to try? Find something where you are really interested in what the club does and give it a try.
Hi,
I’m not sure how it works at your school, but at my school clubs have interest meetings at the beginning of the year. It’s a great way to check out what the club is all about, and get a feel for its vibe. I usually bring along a friend or two so I feel more at ease, and from there I can get a better idea about the club before I actually commit to it.
If there’s nothing like that at your school, I’d recommend talking with some people you know about the clubs they’re in. It can be easier to make new friends if you have your current friends as a starting point.
Another thing to take note of: clubs are different everywhere. At my school, they’re super casual/informal. There’s literally one club where people just get together and watch old Disney channel shows. It all depends on your personal school and what types of clubs you have.
Also, a lot of this depends what grade you’re in… Generally speaking, freshmen/sophomores are usually the ones who go around joining a bunch of clubs, so you’d easily meet a lot of others looking to make friends. It’s not necessarily impossible for a junior/senior, though you may have to put yourself out there a bit more.
Yes, it can be intimidating. But as long as you’re joining a club you’re actually interested in, it’ll prove to be a valuable experience. Definitely try talking to some people; it never hurts to ask around. Maybe you and your friends can join a new club together.
Just try it. You can always drop out if it doesn’t work out, but many students enjoy their ECs a lot and form great friendships. Some students look back on freshman year and say, I wish I had joined more things then.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. You can have positive experiences in a club even without making friends (not that you should make enemies or anything, but it’s okay if the people are just acquaintances).
First join 2-3 clubs. Go to the meetings, do the activities. Don’t try tooo hard to make friends…see what comes naturally. Esp. consider clubs where you do community service…workign together often helps with friendships.
There may be people feeling the same way, its always great and healthy to try something new and give it a shot, if you get familiar with it, it may not be as challenging to think of joining something. Good Luck!
One great thing about community service is that, if you choose real work (not just showing up to socialize for a few hours, once in a while,) you can get involved in the tasks, not feel so self-conscious. Show up regularly and you’re part of a team.
Just join the club and see how it goes through the year. As long as you stay involved, I guarantee you’re going to make friends. I’ve found that in clubs, you kind of just do stuff with other people so often that eventually they end up being your friends, whether they decide to or not. Try not to worry about fitting in, but rather focus on staying committed to the club. I recommend joining key club. Where I’m from, it’s well known as basically the club for awkward Asians to socialize