I’m going to commit to College A soon, and I’m 100% sure that I want to go there. However, my dad said that if I don’t have good second semester grades by the end of senior year, then I’m either going to have to go to community college or College B, which is a college about 20 mins from my house. If I end up not getting good enough grades by the end of second semester, I would rather go to College B than community college, but I’m not sure if I’d be allowed to change my mind after committing to College A. What should I do in this situation? Thanks so much.
Do the two schools have the same commitment date (Apr 30)? Can you wait until then, as you will have a better idea of your grades?
To directly answer your question, as long as you didn’t apply to college A under ED, you could de-commit and commit to College B (as long as it’s not passed the final date to commit to College B). You would likely lose the deposit you gave to College A to hold your spot.
They both have the same commitment date, so what would happen if I don’t de-commit before Apr 30?
Not sure what you are asking. You can’t be committed to two schools at the same time.
So if you don’t de-commit to school A in the window where you can still commit to school B, you will have to go to school A, because you missed the deadline to accept your spot and put down the deposit at school B.
Continue to work on your grades so that this does not become an issue with your dad. I also encourage you to continue to discuss these things with your dad. Good luck.
Okay thank you. Would I still be able to go to community college after committing to College A after the commitment date, though? Or would I have to go to College A no matter what?
You can withdraw and lose your deposit.
Work hard on your grades so this isn’t an issue and you can go to college A.
Ideas on how to work hard:
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/2026961-what-to-do-when-you-arent-doing-well-in-a-hs-class-p1.html
You could still go to CC if it has open enrollment, which many do, or if it’s application deadline and/or commit date hasn’t already passed.
Innocent child, your dad is probably bluffing to motivate you. However, work hard to get good grades and dodge this bullet. You can do it!
Work on your grades, but also have a talk with your Dad about the money issue. Is the truth that he can’t afford A and so is pushing B and community college in this strange way?
@happymomof1 or College A costs more so he doesn’t want to waste money if the OP isn’t going to work hard at college
@bopper - That was what I took to be the general idea in the original post. I’ve known cases where the parents haven’t wanted to come right out and say that the money wasn’t there, and so came up with all kinds of wild and strange requirements in order to push the kid into a different decision. Not to mention control-crazed parents who pull the rug out from under the kid right before classes are set to start.
@audreyparpp - What exactly are your dad’s criteria for “good second semester grades”?